Retail jewelry trailblazer Helene Fortunoff dies at 88 

Retail jewelry trailblazer Helene Fortunoff dies at 88 

Helene Fortunoff, one of the country’s most successful jewelry retailers and matriarch of the Fortunoff family, died in Miami Beach Monday from a non-COVID respiratory illness. She was 88.

Fortunoff was best known as a jewelry entrepreneur and shrewd businesswoman who started out with a few showcases in her family’s housewares store on Livonia Avenue in Brooklyn in the 1950s and grew the business into a multi-million-dollar chain anchored by a flagship store on Manhattan’s Fifth Avenue. 

Born in 1933 to Samuel and Tillie Finke in Paterson, N.J., she graduated cum laude with a degree in business administration from New York University, where she met her first husband, Alan Fortunoff, with whom she had six children. Her jewelry career began when she entered Alan’s family housewares business, started in 1922 by Max and Clara Fortunoff. 

Helene Fortunoff was instrumental in establishing Fortunoff Fine Jewelry and Silverware, the fine jewelry and housewares retail chain that had stores in Westbury, White Plains, Manhattan, Paramus, N.J., Wayne, N.J. and Woodbridge, N.J. She retired in 2005 after the sale of the company, which had been recognized by National Jeweler magazine two years earlier as the 24 largest jewelry retailer in the United States. 

Fortunoff was the first recipient of the National Jewelers Award for retailing excellence and received the same honor from the Women’s Jewelry Association (WJA) Hall of Fame in 1993. She was elected president of WJA and chaired the organization for more than 15 years. Fortunoff was also a recipient of the American Gem Society’s 2001 Triple Zero Award. 

Fortunoff served as the chair of the Board of Governors of the Gemological Institute of America and in Jan. 2006, she received a Gem Award for lifetime achievement from the Jewelry Information Center, presented by Lauren Bacall, a longtime spokesperson for the brand. 

Besides her numerous business achievements, Fortunoff was active in community and religious causes. A past trustee of the North Shore Family and Child Guidance Association, she was honored as their 1996 Woman of Achievement. Fortunoff was a past chair of the Board of Trustees of Hofstra University and a charter member of the UJA Women of Distinction and a Lion of Judah of that organization. She supported The Fortunoff Video Archive for Holocaust Testimonies at Yale University, The Lustgarten Foundation, and Mount Sinai Medical Center Foundation. 

Fortunoff is survived by her husband Robert Grossman, who she married in 2006.  She is also survived by five children, Esther, Andrea, Rhonda, Ruth, and David. Her son Louis passed away in 2012. She is also survived by nine grandchildren and one great-grandchild. 

Services will be held on Long Island on Wednesday. Donations in her memory can be made to the Fortunoff Video Archive for Holocaust Testimonies at Yale University, The North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center or The Lustgarten Foundation for Pancreatic Cancer Research. 

Helping Kids Handle Trauma, By Rosie Jolene, Guest Blogger

Helping Kids Handle Trauma, By Rosie Jolene, Guest Blogger

Childhood abuse and trauma have been serious concerns for years and, unfortunately, the pandemic seems to have exacerbated the problem. An October 2021 study presented by the American Academy of Pediatrics that analyzed 39,000 children found that 2,064 were victims of suspected child abuse during the period when pandemic restrictions were implemented, representing a significant increase from pre-pandemic. With children aged 5 and above, the average number of abuse cases nearly tripled, from 36 to 103.

Childhood trauma can be caused by a variety of circumstances, including psychological, physical or sexual abuse. It can also be caused by natural disasters, violence in the community or school, bullying, serious accidents, illnesses, loss of a loved one, stress caused by poverty, the deployment of a parent in the military, exposure to substance abuse and, in current times, fears brought on by the pandemic.

In addition, as we’ve seen in recent news reports, young people are increasingly being traumatized by school shootings, like the latest tragedy in Michigan.

Children exhibit signs of trauma in a variety of ways. Things to watch out for include:

• Anger issues
• Attention problems
• Changes in appetite
• Development of new fears
• Increased thoughts about death or safety
• Irritability
• Loss of interest in normal activities
• Problems sleeping
• Sadness
• School refusal
• Physical complaints such as headaches and stomachaches

Support Their Process

When helping your child deal with their emotions, it is important to remember that every person is different, and how they process their feelings will vary as well. Maryville University’s human development and family studies program highlights how impactful experiences, such as traumatic ones, can change relationships within the family and affect your child’s development. It’s during this time that they either develop trust or difficulties trusting people moving forward. Let them know that they are not alone. Always take time to listen to them when they speak about their emotions, and never trivialize them. This will ensure that they feel validated and heard.

Talk to them in situations where they feel most comfortable. This can be when you are together on a drive or having a walk through the park. Be sure to also respect their boundaries and never force them to say more than they’re comfortable sharing.

Older children and teenagers might require some time away from stresses like school pressures. As mental wellness reporter Christina Caron writes in the New York Times,  allowing them to take mental  health days will let them practice self-care and counter stress. Fortunately, in New York, students are allowed to take mental health days as they are treated like taking a day off due to physical illness. Supporting your child’s process will encourage their feelings of security around you.

 

When It’s Time for Therapy

Being there for your children does them a world of good, especially after trauma, but it’s important to acknowledge that they may need professional help during the healing process. Many parents are not properly equipped with the knowledge required to help children who have gone through traumatic events. An experienced therapist can provide your child with the right strategies and coping practices. This will also help them adjust to difficult situations without adopting unhealthy habits.

Psychology Today’s article on trauma mentions how professional psychotherapy is one of the most effective ways for those who have gone through trauma to deal with their feelings. Trauma-informed care helps build resilience and allows people to know which coping mechanisms are healthy and which aren’t.

Traumatic experiences at any age can be difficult to process, but they are even more challenging for children. Seek out help from professionals who specialize in caring for children and teens.

Note: If your child or teen is experiencing any signs of trauma, contact North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 

When to Contact Authorities

If you suspect your child has gone through a trauma as a result of abuse or neglect, the Child Welfare Information Gateway encourages you to reach out to authorities. Signs can include reclusive behavior or bruises on the body. Bringing in the authorities may also help increase your child’s sense of safety, as they will know that the offender will no longer be able to harm them. Aside from this, it may lessen the chances of the perpetrator mistreating others in the future.

You can also call New York’s statewide number 1-800-342-3720 to make a report. Once it is filed, the central register will contact your local Child Protective Services (CPS) department and an investigation will begin within 24 hours. CPS will then determine whether or not the child is endangered within 60 days. If CPS finds evidence of abuse, the case will typically be brought to a family court. Throughout the whole ordeal, be sure that your child understands what is happening and that they feel safe. – R.J.

Are You All in for Giving Tuesday?

Are You All in for Giving Tuesday?

With Black Friday, Small Business Saturday and Cyber Monday behind us, it’s a great time to give the gift of mental health to the kids and families of Long Island!

Today is Giving Tuesday, a global celebration of generosity that provides an opportunity for people around the world to come together by sharing acts of kindness and giving their voice, time, money, goods and advocacy to support communities and causes.

Giving not only supports important causes; it also has benefits to both your physical and mental health!

A National Institutes of Health study showed that when people give back, whether through monetary donations, volunteering or other methods, it releases the “feel-good” chemicals in the brain, creating a positive feeling known as “helper’s high.” It also lowers blood pressure, leading to longer lives.

Whatever your reason for giving back, we are hoping that you show your love and concern for the young people in our community by donating today to North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, where our mission to bring hope and healing is more important than ever before.

In the nearly two years since the pandemic struck, we’ve seen a tremendous increase in calls from schools, hospitals, ERs, pediatricians, parents and others, all reaching out for our help because the children and teens in their care are experiencing heightened levels of anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts and other serious mental health challenges.

With your donations, we are able to make a real difference in the lives of the kids and families in our care. Here’s just a sampling of your dollars at work:

  • $50 covers a crisis intervention.
  • $85 covers one child’s group therapy session.
  • $125 covers one child’s individual therapy session.
  • $250 covers one child’s emergency assessment.
  • $500 covers one month of individual therapy for a child.
  • $1,000 covers eight therapy sessions for an entire family.

Whether you can give $10, $10,000 or somewhere in between, your generosity means the world to kids who are struggling to find help during these difficult times.

So, on this Giving Tuesday, be part of the worldwide movement by donating to the Guidance Center at www.northshorechildguidance.org/donate.

Thank you for caring about kids!

We’re Grateful for You!

We’re Grateful for You!

What fills you with an attitude of gratitude?

Kathy Rivera, North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s Executive Director/CEO, shares what she is grateful for:

“We traditionally celebrate Thanksgiving by gathering with our loved ones, ushering in the warmth and cheer of the holiday season. This year continues to bring unique challenges as no one has been spared the impact of COVID-19. Therefore, giving thanks means so much more these days. 

As the Guidance Center’s new Executive Director and CEO, I am grateful for the dedication and devotion from our donors, board members and staff. Our dedicated therapists and entire team continue to perform acrobatic feats to make the holiday bright for the vulnerable families, young people, each other and the communities we serve. My family and I are grateful to celebrate another Thanksgiving holiday with one another filled with hope and laughter. Happy Thanksgiving to you all!

The Guidance Center staff is always grateful to hear from children and families that the services we provide have made a real difference in their lives. That’s especially true now, when the pandemic has created such challenging mental health issues for kids and adults alike. Here are a few comments that we’ve received from parents:

“I am writing this letter to let you know how much we have appreciated the help provided by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center during this very difficult time. Our son was a sixth grader and was settling in very nicely until the coronavirus struck. Our therapist has been very generous with her time and has helped us navigate our way with the added anxiety created by this virus. We feel lucky to have had her guidance. Thank you for providing such a great service, and stay well.” – Mom of Middle Schooler

“I wanted to take a moment to communicate how absolutely amazing the Pandemic Parent Support Group has been. What started out as a wonderful opportunity with parents of similar-age kids turned into such a magical bonding and loving environment. My isolation and anxiety were calmed, and it gave me strength during very challenging moments. I am forever grateful!” – Pandemic Parent

“North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center can be summed up in a few words: professional, warm, committed and dedicated. I had an absolutely wonderful experience with the staff, therapist and psychiatrist as they gently bring you into the Guidance Center and nurture you all the way to the end. I really appreciate that they welcome women in all stages of motherhood from prenatal to postpartum as I had so much need for assistance during these times. In particular, my therapist was an extremely great listener; she provided invaluable insight and always had practical tools that I could use day-to-day to help deal with stressors. I can’t say enough about how amazing my experience was at the Guidance Center! Thanks so much to you all for picking me back up and helping me to thrive again.” – Maternal Depression Program Client

While Thanksgiving provides a wonderful opportunity to speak with your children and teens about the importance of being grateful, cultivating a strong sense of appreciation is something that can add value to their lives year-round. For some tips, visit our blog by clicking here.

All of us at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving!

 

The Gift that Gives Back!

The Gift that Gives Back!

North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center counts on donations from generous supporters like you to help us bring hope and healing to the children and families in your community. Today, our work is more important than ever before, as the mental health consequences of the pandemic have created an enormous increase of kids and teens with severe anxiety and depression. Sadly, many young people have also lost loved ones to the virus.

We know you want to do your part to make a difference! That’s why we provide so many ways to give. But at this time of year, one of the best is to consider a Qualified Charitable Distribution, also commonly known as an IRA Charitable Rollover gift.

If you are 70½ years old or older, you can take advantage of a simple way to benefit the Guidance Center and receive tax benefits in return. You can give any amount up to $100,000 per year from your IRA directly to us without increasing your taxable income.*

Here’s How it Works:

Notify your IRA custodian to make a direct transfer of the distribution amount from your IRA to North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center.

  • You take the portion of your required minimum distribution (RMD) that you need as income and transfer the remainder to us, thereby only paying income tax on the needed income.
  • Obtain a written acknowledgment from the qualified charity (different from a tax deduction receipt) to benefit from the tax-free treatment.
These are Your Benefits:

You can transfer up to $100,000 per year to charitable organizations such as the Guidance Center.

  • The distribution to charity counts toward your required minimum distribution for the year.
  • The amount transferred is excluded from your adjusted gross income.
  • Many taxpayers now take the standard deduction, eliminating the need for deductions associated with charitable gifts.
Here’s How to Qualify:

You must be age 70 ½ or older at the time of the gift.

  • Transfers must be made directly from a traditional IRA by your IRA administrator.
  • Gifts must be outright, and the donor cannot receive any goods or services in exchange for their contribution.

Thank you for making the wellbeing of the children and families in our community a priority as you create your philanthropic plans. We are so grateful for your support!

*Please consult your tax advisor to confirm how you would benefit from this opportunity.