by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jul 31, 2026 | Blog
By Abby Schiff, Volunteer at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
College and stress are two words that go together hand in hand. No matter what, it is virtually impossible to go through the college experience without feeling an ounce of stress. The thing is, a little bit of stress in your life is normal and manageable. Where it becomes an issue is when that little bit turns into an abundance.
As a rising junior in college, every passing year seems to bring an increasingly heavy work load. With the advancement of technology, teachers across the globe are expecting more of students. They assign more work with the assumption that it can be completed because of all these new “resources,” while often forgetting the stress and pressure these expectations can have on students.
The syllabus is one of the clearest cut ways to receive your expectations for a semester or year. Sometimes, you get lucky. Other times, you get caught in a mountain of work. A teacher will assign a textbook reading, plus a couple of articles which can span anywhere from 20-100 pages, as well as a written assignment all to be completed within a couple of days. They then slap a grade on it and give you another one, and another.
Many times, teachers pile on the readings because they think that all of their students are using artificial intelligence to scan and read for them. Somehow, this translates to giving more work. While there are plenty of students who use AI, there are just as many who don’t.
This is where the stress comes in. This can look like: sleepless nights, bad eating habits, procrastination, persistent worry, and even skipping class. For the students who do all the work without the help of AI, they are getting piled on with more to do than they can handle.
On top of studious stressors, students also deal with social pressures. Peer pressure and social anxiety are two of the most popular forms of stress I’ve seen in my fellow college students. Especially when it comes to “taking a load off,” students can easily get carried away or pressured to get carried away with drinking. This can cause them to lose control over their workload and their social lives, which leaves many struggling in need of resources.
Because of these concerns, mental health resources on campus are incredibly important. They can help students manage their stress and anxiety that they find from classes with difficult workloads or anything going on in their personal lives. Resources are vital for the health of students, and a lack of access can be detrimental for student mental health.
In this respect, school resources are very important and helpful, but also difficult to find time for. While it is highly beneficial to have mental health resources on campus that help students experiencing stress and anxiety, most students cannot find the time to utilize these resources, or their only time is when these offices close. For students who are also part-time workers, finding time to get help is nearly impossible.
This is why it is important to have more resources open at night or early mornings and available to more students. When mental health offices are only open during the school day, it makes it pretty difficult for students to find time between classes to go in for long enough to get the help they need.
Another factor that is important to recognize is age. While college students are adults, and thus, treated as such, between a person’s 20s and 30s, the frontal lobe is still developing. This doesn’t mean that college students should be thought of as children or treated like it, but it is important to have the necessary resources for people who are still in development to have access to the correct care.
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center provides quality mental health care to people from birth to age 24 regardless of ability to pay, serving as a beacon of hope for students throughout Nassau County. Services are offered both in-person at three locations or via telehealth, with appointments as late as 9:00pm. There is no wait list, as they know that access delayed is access denied.
More colleges should run by this example. Care should be included in the college experience, especially if the school is one of the stressors responsible for mental health challenges. It should not be expected of students to have an impossible workload that only a computer can handle. It defeats the purpose of telling students not to use AI if that is the only thing that can complete the assignment in time. Instead, a manageable workload that doesn’t need to be scanned should be the norm, and free care early morning to late at night should be installed everywhere.
Many schools are getting better at having resources available, but a big issue is the ratio of students to care providers. A school may have 15 therapists available, and that seems like a great number, but when you have a school with over 40,000 students, 15 doesn’t seem so great anymore. Fixing these ratios so that students don’t have to wait to get care should be a top priority because access delayed is access denied.
School is supposed to be challenging, but it was never meant to be impossible.
If you are having a hard time dealing with school or other challenges, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 to get connected with the help you need.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jul 3, 2026 | Blog
Summer is a prime time for stress and anxiety levels to skyrocket. Having kids home running around mixed with the blazing heat is not always the best combo. It is important to have ways to lighten your load and recognize when you need a moment to step away.
Write out your schedule
The summer months can get very booked very fast, and it can be daunting to remember every detail of every day. Having a clear cut schedule is one of the most efficient ways to see and understand everything you have going on without becoming overwhelmed.
Whether it’s in a planner or on a full-fledged calendar, writing things down boosts memory retention and reduces your cognitive load, helping you avoid scrambling to remember every miniscule detail. This also gives way to enhanced focus; if you were to draft a digital version, you might be more susceptible to distractions online. Writing everything makes for better time management, and a significantly lower chance of overscheduling yourself.
Put away time for yourself
Make sure that you are leaving at least a little bit of free time on the calendar for yourself. Whether your schedule is jam packed or on the lighter side, self-care time is encouraged and incredibly helpful, especially for those who get overwhelmed by the summer craze.
Alone time is incredibly important for mental health and well-being. Slowing down and taking a break allows for your nervous system to calm down and lower cortisol levels. Time with yourself creates a space for personal growth, and the ability to explore what you are interested in. Believe it or not, time spent away from others actually strengthens relationships! Absence really does make the heart grow fonder, and spending some time alone gives you new perspectives and experiences to share with others when you step back into your normal routine.
Practice patience
Kids are bright, full of energy and, of course, you love them. That being said, sometimes their energy and yours don’t line up, and it can be easy to get frustrated.
If you physically feel yourself getting overwhelmed, step away for ten seconds and take a deep breath or two. This lowers your impulse to yell. It is easy to get annoyed when your children don’t listen or are simply bouncing off the walls with energy. When this happens, you have to remind yourself that they are still mentally developing just as they are physically. They are adopting skills for emotional regulation, but they haven’t fully figured it out just yet. You need to remember that they aren’t adults, they are kids, so you can’t expect them to act as if they are fully grown. You can also use grounding techniques to distract and calm your mind from the feelings bubbling up, such as naming five things you see, four things you touch, three you hear, two you smell, and one you taste.
I got angry. What should I do?
It’s important to give yourself grace when you lose control. It is a perfectly normal thing to happen, and sometimes you aren’t able to recognize when you get too overwhelmed. That being said, it is important to take steps to ensure that you are less likely to get angry in the future.
Use this as a teaching moment. Take a few seconds to yourself to calm down first. Make sure that you regulate your emotions before going to help your child with theirs. Then, get to eye level and apologize to your child, letting them know you made a mistake. Be sure to validate their feelings and tell them that it is okay to feel how they are feeling. Take accountability for your actions and ensure your child that you should have spoken in a more calm way. It is normal to get angry sometimes, so remember to practice self-compassion
This is an incredibly powerful teaching moment not only for your child but for yourself too. It is a good step in the child learning about regulating emotions and how to deal with conflict. For yourself, it is good to learn what your triggers are and how you can take the necessary steps to recognize and redirect your frustration so that you can be better about it in the future.
If you are having trouble or need support, North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center provides many helpful services. For more information, please call (516) 626-1971.
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by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jun 12, 2026 | Blog
By Guest Blogger Abby Schiff
Social media is at the center of many people’s day to day lives. For moms today, the constant intake of online information has a plethora of negative effects. These include toxic comparisons, feelings of inadequacy, and stigma around postpartum and perinatal care.
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s Diane Goldberg Maternal Health & Wellness Program works to combat these issues, along with providing help to mothers, soon to be mothers, and their families.
Toxic Comparison
Many people perfectly curate their social media platforms to look like the “ideal” life. They exude perfection in every frame. Their baby is happy, they are happy, they look good, their house looks good, and the list goes on.
For people looking in, this causes intense comparison with themselves to others, even family and friends who post online. They see a picture of a video of someone who is happy in their snapshot, and instantly feel like they are not doing enough or the correct thing.
“Everything looks so perfect when people are posting, but it’s not real. You are looking at someone’s life in a small moment in time, and you don’t know what happens before and after,” says Marsha Smith, LCSW.
“People with body image issues who haven’t lost weight after pregnancy are online comparing themselves to people who have,” says Dr. Sue Cohen, Director of Clinical Services.
When asked about the social media space for mothers, Smith says, “People doomscroll and get so much information. The algorithms perpetuate with negative content. It causes doom and gloom.”
Once you see one video about an issue with childbirth or life with newborns, they start flooding in and it is easy to get caught in the chaos.
The team at the Diane Goldberg Maternal Health & Wellness Program recommends that pregnant and postpartum moms sign off of social media to avoid the negativity that the platform can bring.
Stop the Stigma
Postpartum and perinatal treatment is incredibly stigmatized, motherhood is met with the expectation that everything is joyful and perfect leading up to and after birth. This can make it incredibly difficult for new mothers to seek the help they need, resulting from fear of judgement and feeling shame.
More women than ever are getting their advice from social media influencers and not professionals, which can lead to a delay in getting the help they need.
In order to decrease the shame and stigma surrounding postpartum and perinatal treatment, there needs to be more education surrounding it. More people need to become aware of what can happen to mothers before, during, and after pregnancy, and that it is not something to judge or be ashamed about.
The Diane Goldberg Maternal Health & Wellness Program
Many women experience mild mood changes during pregnancy and after birth, but 15-20% of women experience more significant symptoms. These can include signs of postpartum depression and other perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs) such as: trouble eating or sleeping, trouble taking care of yourself or your baby, feeling overwhelmed by emotions, having uncomfortable/scary thoughts.
The Diane Goldberg Maternal Health & Wellness Program provides services to help women in need. Services include: screening and assessments; individual, couple, and family therapy; crisis intervention consultation; psychiatric evaluations and medication management when needed; support groups; back to work family support; self-care practices; and workshop opportunities.
In-person connections between mothers in all stages gets rid of the highly filtered and polarized communities online. It allows for authentic and active support, facilitating emotions that can’t always be felt through the screen. Tangible support can be extremely helpful, as mothers can share supplies and lean on each other. Real life connections also decrease the toxic comparison culture, instead focusing on real, raw, unfiltered conversations and embracing imperfections.
The Guidance Center serves women with PMADs to make sure their moods are stable, they are not harming themselves or others, and administer medication management, if needed.
The program is located at the Marks Family Right from the Start 0-3+ Center at 80 North Service Road, LIE Manhasset, NY 11030. You can call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 for more information on this lifesaving program.
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by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jun 3, 2026 | Blog
By Guest Blogger Abby Schiff
For many kids, receiving mental health services is not something that is easily obtainable. North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, in partnership with Nassau BOCES, has built an expansive initiative known as the Intensive Support Program (ISP) to meet the needs of families in the community.
What is ISP?
ISP is designed to give students who are psychiatrically complex in their needs, meaning they have multiple overlapping diagnoses, access to mental health care. The program is installed in Nassau BOCES schools for this reason.
There can be a variety of factors that contribute to the inability of students to acquire mental health resources, such as time, money, and transportation. “ISP removes barriers that stand in the way of getting mental health services and embeds those services into the school day,” says Alexandra Lo Re, LCSW, Director of Clinical Services of the Intensive Support Program.
ISP is available to elementary, middle, and high school students. As they transition through the years, the program follows them.
“Adolescence is a delicate time for children in general,” says Lo Re. “Throw in a predisposition for mental health challenges and symptoms start to intensify at this stage. It is a delicate time for a lot of individuals. Middle school is where we see the most crises and incidents. It is the largest program and always full.”
When asked about how different kids tend to present their problems, Lo Re says, “The boys generally tend to act out more and have those external outbursts of anger. Girls tend to turn inward, and struggle with self-harm, suicidal ideations, which can be harder to catch unless reported. They are at risk of slipping under the radar.”
What does a typical session look like?
Children who receive help through ISP do not have to leave school or worry about how to get to a clinician. Rather, they get all the help they need during the school day in the school building. Sessions are relatively short, and don’t disrupt learning.
“Sessions are 30 minutes twice a week. They generally focus on whatever the student is going through at that time. A large part of the clinicians’ work is labeling and identifying feelings. They help the student start to name, identify, and learn to work with what they are feeling. They discuss coping skills and how to put them into place. In addition to individual work, the students also have groups once or twice a week,” says Lo Re.
Today’s Challenges
Social media and cellphones are the leading causes of the most prevalent issues in the classroom today. “The inability to put phones down leads to attention spans shrinking, social skills fading, and impulse control weakening,” says Lo Re.
With the growing phone and media use in younger generations, there is a massive increase in social issues stemming from online bullying. Hiding behind the screens, people grow bolder in their online discourse and tend to harm others through hurtful posts.
When asked how phones affect kids’ learning and development, Lo Re says, there is a pressure that comes with having a phone.Kids are never away from the phone, never disconnected and given time and space to build their own identity. She also notes, “In BOCES, there are no phones allowed, and we see improvements within the students’ social interactions.”
Individualized Approaches
Every student is different, and everyone responds to treatment differently. Individual sessions can really go a long way. Lo Re states, “Individual sessions give the students that connection. Many students lack a consistent safe place to talk to about anything. Giving them that space goes a long way in helping them learn they can be who they are.”
Groups are also incredibly helpful for the development of social skills in the students. “Even something as simple as taking a turn in a board game is a struggle for some kids. Playing games during group teaches emotional regulation, frustration tolerance, and how to handle both success and disappointment. They learn how to be resilient and practice good sportsmanship, which cultivates a growth mindset in others,” says Lo Re.
At times, the clinician will give ownership to the group about the activity and let them take the reins. Lo Re recalls, “One group in the middle school invented their own game. They were able to roleplay, act the scene out and work together. It was really lovely to hear about.” The students were able to facilitate their own session and collaborate to have a good time, thanks to ISP. ISP does a wonderful job of accommodating the needs of each specific child when providing resources.
To learn about our lifesaving programs, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Feb 18, 2026 | Blog
By Tracy Brown, LCSW and volunteer with the Guidance Center
Emotions often get a bad rap. Many people were taught in childhood, either explicitly or implicitly, that experiencing strong emotions is a weakness or something to suppress. Have you ever been told to “just get over it,” “move on,” or “let it go” when you were upset? While often well-intentioned, this advice overlooks a fundamental truth: there is a reason we have emotions: because we need them!
Emotions can give us important information about a situation. They serve as signals that we are reacting to something in our environment or internally. They motivate our behavior and prepare us for action. They can help us save time when we need to act quickly. Emotions aren’t a flaw in our design—they are the design. However, it is important to understand that our emotions are often triggered by our thoughts or interpretations of events.
Every person experiences a wide variety of emotions (even if they aren’t aware of them). That’s what it means to be human. Without emotions, we wouldn’t be calm or strong or better regulated—we’d be robots. Emotions aren’t the problem; misunderstanding them or giving them the driver seat is.
So let’s talk about what emotions actually do for us.
Fear & Anxiety: Our Built-In Alarm System
Fear and anxiety were evolutionarily designed to keep us safe. Our fight or flight mechanism scans the environment for potential threats and prepares the body to respond quickly. Long ago, these emotions helped cave men to instinctively escape predators. In today’s world, they might arise when sensing danger, but they also may come up in less physically threatening situations, for example, when preparing for a presentation, trying to meet a deadline, or when thinking about an upcoming challenging social situation.
Anxiety not only motivates us to avoid or get out of dangerous situations; it also motivates us to problem solve and plan ahead. Without anxiety, how many of us would wake up on time for work, or be motivated to complete a project before a deadline?
The problem isn’t anxiety itself—it becomes problematic when the alarm goes off and we misinterpret or overestimate a threat. When anxiety turns into long periods of unproductive rumination, or leads to avoiding important tasks or activities that can actually be beneficial, it stops being helpful and starts running the show. That’s when we need to take a closer look at our relationship to anxiety, and seek help when we recognize it’s taken over and it’s not helping us reach our goals.
Still, its original purpose remains protection. So trying to suppress it is not the goal. You want to understand it, and find ways to relate to it in a healthy way.
Anger: The Boundary Setter
Anger often gets labeled as “bad,” but anger is often an emotion of information. It tells us that something feels unfair, threatening, or violating. Anger helps us recognize our boundaries and gives us the energy to defend them.
Healthy anger can lead to assertiveness, change, and justice. Unchecked or suppressed anger, on the other hand, can turn inward (as shame or anxiety) or outward (as aggression).
Anger isn’t the enemy—it’s a signal asking to be understood and channeled.
Sadness: The Emotion of Loss and Healing
Sadness shows up when we lose something—whether that’s a person, a dream, a phase of life, or a sense of safety. It slows us down so we can process, reflect, and heal.
Sadness also invites connection. When we allow ourselves to feel it, we often receive comfort and support from others. It reminds us of what matters.
Avoiding sadness doesn’t make it disappear—it just finds other ways to show up.
Joy: The Reinforcer
Joy tells us, This matters. This is good for me. It reinforces behaviors, relationships, and experiences that bring meaning and connection. Joy helps us build resilience—it doesn’t erase hardship, but it gives us something to return to.
Joy isn’t meant to be constant. It’s meant to be savored.
Disgust: The Protector
Disgust protects us from physical and emotional harm. It keeps us away from spoiled food, unsafe environments, and situations that feel deeply wrong. It’s a powerful protective emotion, even if we don’t always recognize it as such.
When an Emotion Takes Over the Driver’s Seat
Emotions are meant to be signals, not dictators.
When one emotion starts running your thoughts, choices, body, and behaviors, it may be time to pause and get support.That doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means your nervous system is working overtime and you may benefit from support in managing these emotions.
Therapy, support, skills, and connection don’t eliminate emotions. They help you listen to them without being controlled by them.
The Goal Isn’t to Get Rid of Emotions
The goal isn’t to “fix” anxiety, silence anger, or avoid sadness.
The goal is to understand what your emotions are trying to tell you—and to respond with curiosity and balance instead of fear.
Because emotions aren’t the problem.
They’re part of the solution.
If your child is struggling to manage difficult emotions, you are not alone. The team at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center is here to help. Call (516) 626-1971 to learn more about the programs and services offered.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jan 27, 2026 | Blog
With the holiday season behind us and less festive days ahead, it’s common to experience the winter blues; a temporary dip in energy and emotion brought on by the shorter days and lack of sunlight.
While some level of winter blues isn’t unusual, for some people, the shorter, darker and colder days that characterize this time of year can cause a depressive episode that requires clinical intervention.
If you’ve noticed your child’s mood change dramatically when winter comes around, they might be in the six percent of the population who experiences seasonal affective disorder, or SAD.
While SAD typically begins in a person’s early 20s, older children and teens can develop the condition. More than simply the winter blues, SAD is characterized by feelings of sadness and hopelessness nearly every day. People with SAD are unable to enjoy the activities that typically make them happy; they have difficulty concentrating and are often tired and/or agitated.
Two chemicals in the brain—melatonin and serotonin—are responsible for regulating energy, sleep cycles and mood. During winter’s darkness, melatonin levels increase, causing sleepiness and fatigue. Serotonin, which is sometimes referred to as the feel-good chemical, is produced in greater amounts with exposure to sunlight, and we naturally get less light in the long, cold days of winter.
Some people suffer from a lesser form of SAD, whose symptoms include low energy, weight gain, and social withdrawal.
Some other facts: Females are about four times more likely to develop SAD than their male counterparts. People with a history of depression are more prone to experiencing symptoms of SAD.
Here are some strategies that you can share with your family, whether they might experience full-blown SAD or the milder winter blues (and most of these are useful tips for everyone year-round!):
- Get as much direct exposure to sunlight as possible.
- Since being out in the sun can be difficult this time of year, either due to cold temperatures or long days inside, consider purchasing artificial “sunbox” lights. Their special fluorescent tubes mimic the sun’s beneficial rays (plain lights don’t have the same effect).
- Keep or start an exercise routine. If it’s not too cold out and it’s a sunny day, try to walk outside to reap the benefits of being in natural sunshine. Even if you work out indoors, it will have a positive impact on your mood.
- Turn up the heat (between 64 and 70 degrees) and drink hot beverages.
- Eat healthy foods, with a focus on fruits and vegetables high in vitamin D. That’s good advice any time of year, but especially important in winter when your cravings for sugar and carbohydrates tend to increase.
- Don’t give in to the urge to isolate. Seeing friends and attending social functions are crucial to putting a damper on the blues.
- Engage with your creative side, whether it be taking up a new hobby or reintroducing a former favorite pastime. Encourage your child to participate in after-school clubs and other activities.
- Take up meditation and other mindfulness-based practices.
Finally, keep in mind that if your child’s depression is impacting their ability to function, it’s important to seek help from a mental health professional, regardless of the season.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Sep 26, 2025 | Blog
By Alissa Striano, a volunteer at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
As a volunteer at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center and as a yoga and Pilates instructor, I’ve always been fascinated by the mind-body connection. In my work, I see firsthand how breath, movement, and mindfulness can help regulate the nervous system. But it got me thinking: How do kids learn to calm their bodies and emotions when they’re feeling overwhelmed?
What does it really mean when a child has a dysregulated nervous system? What tools are available to help them feel calm, safe, and in control? And how do modern approaches like sensory rooms and art therapy make a difference?
To explore these questions, I sat down with Dr. Susan Cohen, Director of Clinical Services at the Marks Family Right from the Start 0-3+ Center. With over 30 years of experience at the Guidance Center, Dr. Cohen offers a wealth of knowledge on how emotional regulation develops and how the Guidance Center is meeting the growing mental health needs of children and teens through a variety of creative, therapeutic modalities.
“Kids are showing more anxiety,” says Dr. Cohen. “Especially since the pandemic, children are not as well-equipped to regulate their emotions.” After three decades at the Guidance Center, Cohen has seen the landscape of mental health shift dramatically and today’s children are facing emotional challenges at increasingly younger ages.
One of the reasons? Co-regulation, or rather the lack of it. “This can be brought on by the changes in society that have promoted increased leniency and a lack of boundaries,” she explains. The result is often a cycle of stress and reactive behavior that makes emotional regulation difficult for the whole family.
So, what does a dysregulated nervous system look like in a child?
“There are several layers to it,” Dr. Cohen says. “Some kids are hyperactive, can’t sit still, can’t focus. Others can’t tolerate frustration or being told ‘no.’ They fly off the handle with even mild stress.”
For younger kids especially, it’s not just about behavior; it’s about language. “They don’t have the vocabulary yet to express their feelings,” she says. “So, they act out physically with hitting, tantrums, and meltdowns. Older kids might slam doors or use inappropriate language, but younger ones just don’t have the words.”
That’s where the Guidance Center’s Sensory Room comes in.
A child-centered, multi-sensory environment filled with tools like bubble tubes, tactile walls, weighted blankets, and color-changing fiber optic curtains, it’s a place where over-stimulated children can reset.
“It’s not a one-size-fits-all approach,” Dr. Cohen explains. “Therapists tailor the experience to the child’s needs. One boy who couldn’t make it through traditional sessions without tantrums now finds calm in that space and is even able to talk more openly.”
The goal is to carry what works in the Sensory Room into everyday life. Dr. Cohen encourages parents to try simple tools at home like noise-canceling headphones, weighted stuffed animals, or even Velcro under a desk for discreet tactile input. “There are a lot of little tricks that can make a big difference,” she says.
The Guidance Center also supports children through nature-based therapy in their outdoor garden, The Friends of Nancy Marks Nature Nursery. “We plant vegetables, do arts and crafts outside, and keep the kids unplugged from screens,” says Dr. Cohen. “It’s a different kind of sensory experience. It’s grounding and real.”
Art therapy is another modality used regularly, particularly in group settings like the Girls Empowerment Group. “We use art to help kids build confidence and process emotions,” says Cohen. “It’s especially helpful for those who have trouble expressing themselves verbally.”
What gives Cohen the most hope for the future?
“That parents want help,” she says. “They come here seeking support, connection, and guidance. That tells me people are beginning to understand how important emotional work is and that healing is a process we don’t have to face alone.”
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Sep 19, 2025 | Blog
A Conversation with Clinical Director Denise Ingenito
By Alissa Striano
Over the past few years, AI has made its way into almost every part of our lives—including mental health. With feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression on the rise, especially among teens, many young people are turning to AI-powered apps like Wysa and Youper to talk things out. These apps offer everything from mood tracking to mindfulness tips to conversations modeled after cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). They’re free, available 24/7, and sometimes feel more private than a traditional therapy session.
Let’s be real, teens are already glued to their phones, and talking to an app might feel less intimidating than opening up to a human. But can AI replace therapy?
As a volunteer with a personal interest in the future of AI, I sat down with Denise Ingenito, Clinical Director at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, to talk about it. Denise oversees mental health programs in the agency’s Roslyn Heights and Westbury locations, manages intern training programs, and plays a role in the Guidance Center’s services for kids and families dealing with co-occurring disorders.
Real People, Real Healing
At the Guidance Center, Denise and her team offer way more than just talk therapy.
“We have two girls’ groups for self-esteem, two boys’ groups, an LGBTQ+ group, an anti-bullying group, and parent groups,” she told me. “There’s also our Wilderness Respite Program where teens hike every other week, a Latina girls’ group, and our Community and Home-Based Services team that goes directly into homes to work with both kids and parents.” These programs are built on relationships, empathy, and human connection—everything AI can’t replicate.
Initial Reactions to AI Therapy
When the topic of AI therapy came up in their monthly clinical meeting, Denise said the room was split. “Some clinicians were really concerned about where AI is headed. Others saw it as a useful tool, but only in certain areas, like helping with notetaking or organizing treatment plans.”
Her personal take? “I think AI is potentially dangerous when used for therapy. It’s not really challenging clients or helping them examine distorted thinking. It’s just validating everything they say, and that’s not always helpful.” She added that while AI might be great for tasks like scheduling or documentation, therapists have to be careful not to let technology create cookie-cutter treatment plans.
What About Teens Using AI for Support?
Some teens do use AI tools late at night to vent or journal, Denise explained. And while it might be nice to get something off your chest, there’s no processing involved—just one-way communication.
“A robot doesn’t have empathy. It’s not going to gently challenge you or say, ‘Hey, that doesn’t sound quite right.’”
She also brought up a real example: A student at Bellmore High School texted a live counselor during class, saying she was thinking about hurting herself. Because a human was on the other end, they were able to intervene and get her help immediately. “That would never happen with AI,” Denise said. “There’s nothing better than a human response.”
Can AI Fill the Gaps in Underserved Communities?
When I asked Denise if AI could help kids in underserved areas throughout Long Island, she was skeptical. “A lot of them don’t even have access to technology’s mental health tools. And many kids can’t tell the difference between credible resources and harmful advice on TikTok.”
At Westbury High School, the Guidance Center actually has a clinician on-site to work with teens that are dealing with substance abuse and mental health issues—something Denise hopes to see more of in Nassau County. The New York State Office of Mental Health is pushing for mental health services to be implemented in schools, and the Guidance Center is fully on board with that.
Blending Tech with Therapy (The Right Way)
Still, the Guidance Center isn’t totally anti-tech. Denise mentioned a clinician who uses handheld devices to help kids express emotions through short games. “We’ll play a five-minute game and then have a conversation about how they felt. It opens the door.”
She also brought up storytelling in trauma work—an area where technology could one day play a bigger role. But she emphasized that AI should be a tool, not a replacement. “We need to educate both clinicians and the public about the pros and cons of AI. It’s already shaping our decision-making, even in the simplest ways. I mean, we’re asking apps what to have for breakfast.”
So… Where Does AI Really Belong?
At the end of the day, AI therapy isn’t black and white. It can offer comfort in the moment, help fill small gaps, and even assist therapists behind the scenes—but it can’t truly replace human connection, empathy, or judgment.
As we look toward the future of mental health care, especially for teens, the real question isn’t if we should use AI, but how we use it. Will we treat it as a quick fix, or will we stay focused on building real relationships, one conversation at a time?
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Sep 10, 2025 | Blog
By Alissa Striano
A New Rule for Schools
This fall, schools across Nassau County and throughout New York State will look a little different. In April, lawmakers passed a law requiring schools to keep phones away from students during the entire school day. To meet this requirement, districts are rolling out what is being called the Bell-to-Bell cell phone ban, meaning no phone use from the first bell to the last. The goal is to cut down on distractions, reduce cyberbullying, and support students’ mental health.
Local Control and Transparency
While the law is statewide, each district is responsible for creating its own policy. As part of the state funding that supports the Bell-to-Bell initiative, districts must also communicate their plans clearly, posting them on the New York State government website so families can easily access information.
The exact enforcement depends on the district’s policy, but the state law requires that students cannot use personal devices during the school day. For example, in Manhasset, both internet-enabled devices and other personal electronic devices are included in their restrictions.
Manhasset Example
The Manhasset Union Free School District recently outlined its policy. The district’s approach addresses internet-enabled devices such as smartphones, smartwatches, and tablets, as well as non-internet devices like earbuds, music players, and fitness trackers. Officials emphasize that these devices can create distractions, interfere with learning, and even disrupt emergency response protocols. The policy also reminds families that the school will not be responsible for lost, stolen, or damaged devices.
What It Means for Students
For students, the change may not be easy. Many will say a school day without phones feels boring. But boredom is not always bad. Ali Lo Re, Director of Clinical Services for the Intensive Support Program at BOCES, explained, “When students are bored, that is often where creativity begins. Without constant stimulation from their phones, they have to imagine, create, and connect in new ways.”
Dr. Fiana Klein, a child and adolescent psychiatrist at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, agreed. She said, “Taking phones out of the picture gives students a chance to sit with discomfort. Those moments are where real growth happens, where kids develop resilience, social skills, and confidence in themselves.”
Administrators also hope less screen time will mean fewer incidents of cyberbullying and social drama.
Mental Health and Safety
Research shows that constant access to devices can fuel anxiety, sleep issues, and peer drama. Districts also emphasize safety: in emergencies, phones may spread misinformation or distract students from following staff directions. The Bell-to-Bell ban aims to create calmer, more focused, and safer school environments.
Parents Will Feel It Too
Parents will feel the shift too. For years, many have been in frequent contact with their kids during the school day, answering texts about forgotten items, small problems, or just checking in. That kind of real-time back-and-forth will not be possible anymore. While it may feel uncomfortable at first, both experts say this change could be healthy for families.
Lo Re noted that without the constant lifeline to parents, students will have more chances to solve problems on their own and build independence. It is about giving kids the space to figure things out instead of always stepping in right away.
Dr. Klein echoed that thought, adding, “This is really about stress tolerance, allowing kids to manage discomfort and realize that they can get through it. Parents may feel uneasy at first, but in the long run, it helps create more independent, autonomous young adults.”
Parent Contact
During the school day, parents are encouraged to call the main office or use their child’s district email address if they need to get in touch. Schools will provide clear communication protocols at the start of the year, so families know exactly how to reach their children when needed.
Expert Guidance
For parents looking for additional guidance, Dr. Klein recommends Jonathan Haidt’s bestselling book The Anxious Generation. “It is an important read for parents,” she said. “It explains how these devices interfere with the developmental milestones kids need, and it offers practical strategies for supporting them.”
Looking Ahead
Looking ahead, schools will not just roll out the ban and walk away. As part of the state grant supporting this initiative, districts are required to track how the change is impacting students. Dr. Klein explained, “Schools will be looking closely at trends in bullying, mental health referrals, and overall school climate. The ban is not just about removing phones, it is about making sure we see meaningful improvements in focus, connection, and mental health.”
Next Steps
Each district will handle the details differently, so parents should check their school’s specific policies at ny.gov/phonefree. If questions come up, the best step is to reach out directly to your local district. Families can also prepare by talking about the ban in advance and practicing device-free hours at home. Even something as simple as making dinner phone-free can help kids and parents get used to unplugging.
The Bell-to-Bell law is more than just a restriction; it is a call to action. As Dr. Klein reminded, many kids later admit their favorite part of sleepaway camp was not having their phones. “When they look back, life often feels fuller without them,” she said.
Support for Families
If your family is struggling with this transition or you would like support in helping your child adjust, the team at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center is here to help. Call (516) 626-1971 to learn more about the programs and services offered.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Aug 25, 2025 | Blog, In The Media, Long Island Press
By Denise Ingenito, LCSW, Director of Clinical Services at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
Originally Published in Schneps Media on July 25
Summer brings endless possibilities, whether it’s basking at the beach, riding roller coasters… or fighting with family. Vacations introduce stressors that might not come up at home, making it difficult to manage a packed itinerary and tired children alike.
Though many aspects of a trip are out of your control, parents do have a say in how they plan for and confront conflict that arises. A realistic outlook and openness to improvisation can help to ensure that your summer outing brings the family closer together, not further apart.
Traveling with Kids of Different Ages
Planning a vacation that accommodates children of all ages can prove to be quite a feat. Teenagers often desire freedom and time on their own, which might not always mesh with the rest of the family’s plans. Find activities that allow them to explore independently while still being safely supervised. Encourage them to take on leadership roles in group activities, but avoid putting too much responsibility on their shoulders.
For younger children, the disruption to their routines can lead to stressful moments. Be prepared for some flexibility in their schedules; if nap times or mealtimes get thrown off, don’t sweat it—just build some extra downtime into the itinerary. Keep an eye on their energy levels and emotional cues to gauge when they might need a break.
Set Expectations
Everyone has a vision of what a great vacation looks like, and these ideas can vary widely. Are you headed for a calming lakeside retreat or an action-packed adventure? By discussing and aligning on what each person hopes to get out of the trip, you can set realistic expectations and ensure that everyone is excited and prepared for the days ahead.
Encourage your children to express their interests and preferences. While not everything can be tailored to their exact wishes, giving them a voice in the planning process can help them feel more invested and willing to compromise. It’s all about finding a balance where everyone’s needs are considered, even if they’re not fully met.
Set Boundaries
Traveling brings a whirlwind of activity, and there will come a point when everyone needs a breather. Setting boundaries is key to managing feelings of overstimulation and irritation. Designate some downtime for the adults to relax and for the kids to enjoy some independent play. If teenagers have been taking on extra responsibilities, make sure they get time to themselves, too.
Create space for individual needs and moments of respite. This can mean independent play for the kids or periods where everyone can unwind individually. Respecting these boundaries helps prevent conflicts and ensures that everyone returns to the planned activities feeling refreshed.
Dealing with Disappointment
Even with the best-laid plans, no vacation is perfect. Conflicts and disappointments are inevitable, but how you handle them can make a big difference. If things don’t go as planned, take the time to acknowledge and discuss the feelings of disappointment. Reflect on what could have been better and what you can do differently next time.
Be sure to focus on the positives as well! What went smoothly? What was everyone’s favorite part? What made you laugh? Sharing these reflections with your family can help to shift the focus from disappointments to memorable moments. Opening the door to these conversations fosters a positive outlook and helps everyone appreciate the trip more fully.
After the Vacation
Once the vacation is over, take some time to review and savor the highlights. Break out the photo album and discuss your favorite moments from the trip. These discussions can create lasting memories that bring you closer together, even when things don’t go exactly as planned.
To learn about our lifesaving programs, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org. In case of an emergency after hours, contact our partners at Long Island Crisis Center, (516) 679-1111.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Aug 25, 2025 | Ask The Guidance Center Experts, Blog, In The Media, Long Island Press
Originally Published in Schneps Media on July 18, 2025
In this monthly column, therapists from North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center answer your questions on issues related to parenting, mental health, and children’s well-being. To submit a question, email communications@northshorechildguidance.org.
Question: My teenage daughter has become increasingly distraught over the growing ICE raids on Long Island. At first, we tried to reassure her by explaining that those without a criminal record would not be targeted. But as recent reports have shown otherwise, she’s grown more anxious and fearful, especially for our family members who have lived in the U.S. for decades. She’s been struggling with sleepless nights and a level of nervousness we’ve never seen before. She’s even been apprehensive about going to school. How can we help her manage this very real fear and regain a sense of safety and stability?
Answer: Your daughter’s fear is both personal and entirely rational. The threat of family separation has a profound psychological impact on young people, especially those with loved ones who may be undocumented.
According to the American Immigration Council, more than 4 million children in the U.S. live with at least one undocumented parent. The fear your daughter is experiencing is unfortunately not uncommon. One of the most helpful things you can do is talk openly with her about what your family is doing to stay safe and prepared. Reassure her that there are steps in place, and remind her that she is not alone. Discuss news events as a family to help to manage her uncertainty and allow you to ensure she has accurate information about the situation at hand. When symptoms of distress and anxiety emerge, encourage her to express her emotions freely, and consider seeking support from a counselor familiar with trauma and immigration-related anxiety.
At North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, we’ve seen how news of intensified immigration enforcement has created waves of anxiety across our community. In response, we took swift and compassionate action to support the vulnerable children and families we serve.
Working in consultation with legal experts, we’ve implemented trauma-informed protocols across all our sites. While we do not provide legal advice, our staff has been trained to respond in ways that prioritize safety, ethics, and emotional support. Most importantly, our clinicians work closely with families to create emergency action plans that can provide a sense of control and stability during uncertain times. These plans often include identifying trusted adults who can care for children, securing written permissions for school pickups, and ensuring there’s a network of supports in place if a caregiver is detained or deported.
Knowing there’s a plan and a team of caring adults looking out for her and your family can go a long way toward easing her fears. Though the world may feel unpredictable, a stable support system will allow her to begin rebuilding a sense of security in the face of uncertainty.
To learn about our lifesaving programs, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org. In case of an emergency after hours, contact our partners at Long Island Crisis Center, (516) 679-1111.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Aug 25, 2025 | Blog, In The Media, Long Island Business News
Executive Director and Chief Executive Officer of North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
Kathy Rivera is executive director and chief executive officer of North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, Long Island’s premier children’s mental health organization that focuses on bringing hope and healing to young people struggling with a wide range of emotional challenges. Since taking on the leadership role in 2021, Rivera has successfully managed operations of the renowned agency amid a mental health crisis that continues to be marked by alarming rates of anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation among children and teens.
Rivera, who earned her Bachelor of Arts from Hunter College of the City University of New York and her Master of Social Work from the Hunter College School of Social Work, has 30 years of experience as a licensed clinical social worker, along with an expertise in management. Her deep knowledge of clinical treatment, mental health policy and government facilitates profound insights and perspective on the ever-changing landscape of mental health. Rivera uses her sharp wit and commitment to team spirit and professional development to help the agency thrive. She is dedicated to making positive impacts on the lives of children, young people and families. She is a recognized expert in children and family mental health, depression, anxiety, suicide prevention, trauma and self-injurious behaviors.
Rivera was previously honored by LIBN among the 2024 Most Dynamic Women Leaders. She serves as a board member for the St. Anne Institute and on UnitedHealthcare’s behavioral health quality management advisory subcommittee.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jun 18, 2025 | Blog, In The Media, Long Island Press
By Denise Ingenito, Director of Clinical Services at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
Originally Published in Schneps Media on May 8, 2025
A tragic reality that has become all too common has left parents and children grappling with fear on a daily basis. Data tracked by Everytown for Gun Safety shows that, in the first five months of 2025 alone, there have been 47 incidents of gunfire on school grounds, resulting in 13 deaths, 41 injuries, and a widespread environment of anxiety and uncertainty for our most vulnerable population.
According to Pew Research Center, 57% of teens expressed worry about the possibility of a shooting happening at their school, while nearly 70% of parents worry for their children’s safety while receiving their education.
This deeply rooted concern challenges the sense of security that is so important for children’s mental and emotional development, impacting their ability to thrive both academically and socially. It’s more important than ever for parents to instill a sense of safety and security in their children, strengthening the emotional well-being that allows children to learn, grow, and connect.
Open Communication
When a child brings up safety concerns, listen and turn the conversation into a teachable moment. Starting an open dialogue by asking questions about their experiences in school helps children articulate their emotions and empowers them to think through plans that can better their safety.
Though you don’t want to shelter children from current events, overexposing them to distressing media can heighten their worry and make them feel that the world is a dangerous place. Discussing news events as a family in a calm manner will help to manage their uncertainty and allow you to ensure they have accurate information about the situation at hand.
When symptoms of distress and anxiety emerge, create a safe and supportive space for your child. By validating their feelings, you are letting them know that it’s okay to feel worried or anxious, which helps to reduce any shame or guilt they might feel about being afraid.
Preparing Children Without Creating Fear
Balancing the need to prepare children for emergencies without creating more fear can be a challenge. Lockdown drills are scary for kids of all ages and should be presented as part of a broader safety plan. Walking children through what will happen step-by-step and explaining that these measures are there to keep them safe will alleviate some of the nervousness this type of exercise can cause.
Encouraging situational awareness and teaching children what they can do to keep themselves safe in different scenarios will help them feel in control. Emphasize that these measures are in place to prevent something bad from happening, rather than because a threat is inevitable.
Remind your children to look for the good in the world; there are always people willing to help in times of struggle.
The Relationships Between Parents, Teachers, and Students
Effective communication is the cornerstone of a safe school environment. Since children are perceptive and often pick up on the anxieties of the adults around them, parents and teachers should be mindful of how they talk about safety concerns, displaying a calm, confident demeanor and providing reassurance when needed. When adults work together, they ensure that children receive a consistent message about their safety.
While the stories seen on the evening news often feel entirely out of our control, we do have a say in how we respond. Parents play a major role in helping their children develop resilience and confidence, forming the tools they need to navigate a world full of uncertainty.
For more information about the Guidance Center’s lifesaving programs, visit www.northshorechildguidance.org or call (516) 626-1971.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Feb 12, 2025 | Blog
By Gillian Uhl, Mental Health Outpatient Clinical Supervisor and Wilderness Program Clinical Supervisor
Winter brings shorter days, frigid temperatures, and a natural tendency to hibernate indoors. While the season is perfect for quality family time, it’s just as important to encourage kids and teens to get outside and stay active, even when it’s cold. Whether they are sledding, building snowmen, or ice skating, staying physically and socially engaged during the winter months can have a powerful impact on mental and emotional well-being.
The Importance of Staying Active
The colder months make it easy for kids to fall into routines that include scrolling on their phones or binge-watching tv shows. While some downtime is healthy, too much can negatively affect growing minds and bodies. Excessive screen time and inactivity are linked to increased risks of anxiety, depression, and even obsessive thinking; a cycle that can be hard to break out of.
With many extracurriculars paused due to the weather, opportunities to socialize and connect with peers can become limited. This isolation can lead youth to withdraw further, worsening feelings of loneliness they may already be experiencing.
According to the National Library of Medicine, up to 5.5% of youth aged 9–19 experience Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) annually, a condition commonly referred to as seasonal depression. This form of depression is brought on by the darker and colder months and may lead to symptoms like low energy, negative thinking, and in severe cases, suicidal ideation.
Exercise doesn’t just promote physical health. Regular activity leads to a sense of accomplishment and boosted self-esteem. Finding an activity that is both enjoyable and effective is vital in getting your child to unplug from technology and start moving!
Respite in Nature
Getting your teen out of bed and moving is no small feat—especially on a Saturday morning. That’s why North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center designed the Wilderness Respite Program, which provides a uniquely fun and exciting opportunity for at-risk adolescents to participate in hikes and other nature activities that foster individual growth, leadership skills, and self-esteem.
Designed for teens and young adults navigating mental health challenges, this program connects youth with peers who understand their struggles, creating a safe and welcoming environment in which healing can bloom. On visits to places like Blydenburgh County Park, Harriman State Park, and Jones Beach, teens who may find socialization at school challenging thrive over a shared appreciation for what nature has to offer.
Participants in Wilderness Respite Program truly thrive thanks to their commitment to resilience. These Saturday morning outings happen year-round, no matter the weather. Whether there is rain, snow, or sunshine, Wilderness hikes remind teens that just like in life, challenges can be overcome with commitment and a strong support system.
Here’s how a volunteer and sister of one of our Wilderness Respite Program teens put it:
“After going on these hikes for over a year and witnessing the positive impact it had on countless teens, I realized that it would be the perfect opportunity for my 15-year-old brother to come out of his shell. Though he was hesitant at first, I watched his entire demeanor change after the very first hike.
These trips can be challenging: they go out there in rain or snow, face steep hills and fast paces, and it allows these kids to build a sense of camaraderie with one another. The respite program gave my brother the opportunity to become part of a team, and this has made all this difference in his transformation. He is no longer afraid of opening up and has developed many healthy coping skills that he uses when he feels overwhelmed. The confidence and resilience he has developed since being in this program are truly remarkable.”
The program is open to Nassau County residents aged 12-23. To connect your child with this transformative experience, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org today.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Sep 13, 2024 | Blog
The Children’s Center at Nassau County Family Court is a welcomed place of respite for children and families who have business in family court. Far from a simple daycare service, the Children’s Center provides early-learning, social connection, and emotional well-being in a safe and caring environment.
Through a grant made possible through United Way this summer, North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center partnered with Sesame Workshop, the global nonprofit behind Sesame Street, introducing new and exciting ways to impact our clients. Through familiar faces like Elmo, Big Bird, and the rest of the Sesame Street family, the Children’s Center at Nassau County Family Court utilized a diverse range of resources and tools, spanning issues from Healthy Minds & Bodies to Tough Topics, that are designed to help children navigate challenges like trauma, grief, and parental addiction.
Each day, our teachers and volunteers have exposed the children to the Sesame Workshop resources, allowing them to learn about friendship, art, and health, often practicing breathing techniques as a group to help with stress management. Children are able to apply the skills they learn at the Center to their daily routine, enhancing their communication and coping skills.
Many of our young clients at the Children’s Center aren’t familiar with Sesame Street, so this partnership has introduced them to a world of fun and creativity experienced by previous generations for decades. Feedback from parents has been overwhelmingly positive; many expect their children to simply play while they tend to court matters, but when they see the engaging and educational resources we provide, they leave with a renewed sense of hope for their children and appreciation of our work.
Making a Difference
The impact of Sesame Workshop is seen through the personal experiences of the children themselves. One example came from two siblings who felt drawn to a webpage that focused on coping with divorce. This video acknowledged the difficulties of separation while emphasizing that change, although challenging, is a natural part of life.
Afterward, a teacher sat down with the siblings to reflect on what they had learned. When asked about their takeaway from the video, they responded: “Mom and Dad love us, no matter what.”
For Monica Doyley, Head Teacher and Supervisor of the Children’s Center, moments like these clearly show the importance of the Children’s Center. “That type of answer is why we do what we do,” she says. “We aren’t babysitters—we’re a resource that supports children and families throughout the hardest challenges they face.”
This partnership with Sesame Workshop has opened new doors of learning and healing at the Children’s Center, allowing us to continue supporting children in ways that are meaningful, educational, and fun. As we continue to incorporate these tools into daily activities, we remain committed to ensuring that every child who enters the Center takes home a sense of hope and belonging.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Aug 8, 2024 | Blog
By Guest Blogger Chloe Cohen
The Children’s Center, a program of North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center located within the Nassau County Family Court, provides care and early learning for children (infants to 12 years old) while their parents or guardians handle court matters. Here at The Children’s Center, we partnered with Sesame Street’s “Sesame Workshop,” which provides resources, games, and webinars aimed to aid children of all ages to become “smarter, stronger, and kinder” according to Sesame Street. Throughout the duration of the summer thus far, we have been implementing these educational resources to over 70 children enrolled at the Children’s Center The Workshop features several topics ranging from emotional well-being, art, and friendship to more difficult topics such as divorce and trauma that have proven to educate and open the minds of children to these topics at an understandable and age appropriate level.
By using beloved Sesame Street characters and engaging content, the Workshop creates a safe and supportive environment for children to learn and grow. These resources not only foster healthy habits and resilience but also promote empathy, understanding, and inclusion, ensuring that children are equipped with the knowledge and skills they need for a happy, healthy, and successful future.
Healthy Minds and Bodies
The Sesame Workshop features three subsections of countless resources- the first two are “ABCs and 123s”, which outlines core academic subjects and approaches them in an entertaining and educational manner, and the second is “Healthy Minds and Bodies.” I would like to highlight this subsection, as Sesame Street leverages familiar and friendly Sesame Street characters to make learning about health and wellness fun and effective for young children.
While topics such as nutrition, mindfulness, social emotional learning, and hygiene are not typically touched upon by school curriculum, their importance to the development of children remains critical. By learning about topics related to healthy minds and bodies, we are actively working to set the foundation for lifelong habits that can be established at a young age. Understanding these concepts early on helps children to develop self-care routines and habits that can lead to healthier lifestyles. Additionally, learning about emotional well-beingequips children with skills to manage stress, build resilience, and navigate social interactions effectively. Sesame Street highlights a holistic approach within this subsection that fosters overall well-being for developing children by ensuring they are physically active, emotionally balanced, and socially adept.
The Approach to “Tough Topics”
Of the topics presented within the Workshop, we have found the third and final subsection, “Tough Topics”, to be the most effective. Understanding difficult topics such as divorce, trauma, and grief can be extremely hard for young children, and it can be even harder for caregivers to introduce such matters. The online resources for “Tough Topics” are designed to help children and their caregivers navigate sensitive issues with age appropriate and familiar characters who provide them with the tools they need to manage these challenges together. These topics can be difficult to approach for caregivers as they can even be seen as a taboo to be mentioned in schools or among children’s peers. The Sesame Workshop can open the conversation between children and their caregivers as well as allow them to pack their toolbox with skills to get through these difficult times. Additionally, caregivers who review these resources are able to learn how to communicate with their children through these journeys in a healthy way.
These topics, such as divorce and separation, have been especially useful in The Children’s Center as we are located within a family courthouse that regularly deals with these issues. Children who are literate are able to pick the topic they would like to learn more about during their time with us, and a number of children have chosen these tough topics potentially due to their own family situation or the situation of a loved one. By offering these resources to children who may be struggling, we are actively utilizing the Sesame Workshop to its fullest potential, and we hope to continue to make a difference in the lives of these children, though our time together is limited.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Apr 17, 2024 | Anton Community Newspaper, Anton Media, Blog
By Kathy Rivera
Transitioning from school to the job hunt is a daunting yet pivotal phase in the life of every young adult. As your child embarks upon this important journey, they may feel a mixture of excitement, fear, and worry, and not without reason. Job seekers today face more uncertainty than ever, with the latest unemployment rate for young high school graduates falling at 7.9 percent. Recent college graduates fare slightly better with an unemployment rate of 4.8 percent, though this number is nearly double that of all workers with a college degree, according to the Federal Reserve Bank of New York.
As parents, it can be difficult to balance positive reinforcement while managing expectations. Unemployment affects not only the job seeker, but the family unit as a whole, hindering the independence you want for your child. The psychological effects of rejection are amplified the longer the job hunt continues, so it is vital to understand what you can do to best support your child throughout this phase of their life.
Be patient
It’s important for parents to understand that the job market is vastly different today than it was when they were young jobseekers. Gone are the days of walking into a business and handing the owner a resume with the expectation of receiving an interview later that week. Today, candidates can expect to send out dozens, if not hundreds of applications with little to show for it. According to Pew Research Center, 39% of Millennials have a Bachelor’s degree or higher, making them the most educated generation to date, and that number continues to climb with Generation Z. These impressive numbers have created a highly competitive job market, resulting in more college graduates finding themselves in roles that don’t use their degree.
Provide encouragement
After submitting countless applications with nothing to show for it, it’s understandable for your child to feel demoralized or even hopeless. However, it is crucial to motivate your child to continue their search and build upon their skill sets, tailor their resumes to specific jobs, and network with professionals in their field. Remind them that they aren’t alone in feeling discouraged, but that there is a job waiting for them.
Establish healthy coping mechanisms
Constant rejection can be difficult to deal with. Let your child know that it’s okay to experience feelings of sadness, anxiety, and frustration when unemployed, but they shouldn’t let that consume them. Encourage them to take breaks from the application process to relax with friends and loved ones, enjoy their hobbies, and take time away from the computer. Stress-management techniques such as breathing exercises, meditation, and mindfulness will help them through overwhelming feelings during the hunt. Self care is crucial in avoiding burnout when applying for jobs and maintaining strong mental health.
Trust that they know what is best
It makes sense to want updates on how the job search is going, especially if your child is living at home. Despite this, try to refrain from asking for updates too frequently, as this can create further pressure for your child. If they have any promising leads, trust that you will be the first to know. Today’s young adults have a better understanding of the current job market than you may, so allow them to explore their options, make mistakes, and grow on their own.
By adopting these approaches, we can not only help our children overcome the burden of unemployment but help them to foster the independence and resilience needed to thrive in a professional landscape, all while maintaining their mental well-being.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Mar 22, 2024 | Blog
By Dr. Nellie Taylor-Walthrust
Family court proceedings can have a profound and lasting impact on children, often resulting in emotional and psychological trauma. The adversarial nature of family court, where parents may be pitted against each other in legal battles, can create an environment of stress, uncertainty, and instability for children. As many parents do not have the luxury of leaving their children at home during these disputes, North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center has committed to protecting the children of our community from the long-lasting impact caused by family court.
Why should kids be kept out of court?
While children often do not have the language to make sense of what is happening inside a courtroom, they are highly attuned to the emotions of adults and can pick up on the tension brewing between their parents. Consistent exposure to conflict can weaken a child’s sense of security and contribute to feelings of powerlessness and vulnerability. When left unaddressed, these emotions spiral into depression, anxiety, and insecurities that often follow into adulthood.
Children caught in the midst of their guardians’ legal battle may feel their relationship begin to strain. One of the primary challenges that can arise is the pressure to choose sides, which can emerge from parental expectations, subtle cues, or observed dynamics in the courtroom. It is important to shield kids from these expectations, as picking a side can result in feelings of guilt and abandonment towards the other parent.
As children bear witness to their family undergoing irreparable changes, they often feel a sense of responsibility for the separation. In trying to make sense of the shift in their family, kids frequently end up believing that they are the cause of their parents’ unhappiness. This is especially true in hearings pertaining to custody and child support when the child is the main topic of conversation.
The Children’s Center
The Children’s Center at Nassau County Family Court is operated by North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center. It is a place of respite for children whose families have business in court. Far from a simple babysitting service, the Children’s Center is an early-learning environment that fosters developmental skills through age-appropriate play, activities, and free books for the children to take home. Every aspect of the Children’s Center is designed with kids in mind, allowing them to explore new things in a structured, professionally supervised way. Though they may face uncertainty at home, we are proud to say that the Children’s Center provides a place for kids to be happy, carefree, and most importantly, safe.
To learn more about volunteering at the Children’s Center, contact Dr. Nellie Taylor-Walthrust, Director at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s Leeds Place and head of the Children’s Center, at 516-997-2926, ext. 229, or email ntaylorwalthrust@northshorechildguidance.org.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Mar 8, 2024 | Blog
By Guest Blogger Michelle Quill, Photo by Wes Hicks on Unsplash
The importance of mental well-being during pregnancy
Pregnancy is a time of immense physical and emotional changes for women. As the body prepares to bring new life into the world, it is crucial to prioritize mental well-being alongside physical health. Mental health during pregnancy can have a significant impact on both the mother and the developing baby. Research has shown that stress, anxiety, and depression during pregnancy can lead to adverse outcomes such as preterm birth, low birth weight, and developmental difficulties. Therefore, it is essential for first-time moms to take proactive steps to maintain their mental well-being throughout this transformative journey.
Common mental health challenges during pregnancy
First-time moms may experience a range of mental health challenges during pregnancy. Hormonal fluctuations, physical discomfort, and the anticipation of becoming a mother can contribute to increased stress and anxiety levels. It is common for expectant mothers to feel overwhelmed, uncertain, or even fearful about the changes that lie ahead. Additionally, women with a history of mental health conditions, such as depression or anxiety, may be more susceptible to experiencing these challenges during pregnancy. Recognizing the common mental health challenges that first-time moms face is the first step towards addressing them effectively.
Understanding the hormonal changes during pregnancy and their impact on mental health
During pregnancy, the body undergoes significant hormonal changes that can affect mental well-being. The levels of estrogen and progesterone, two key hormones in pregnancy, increase dramatically. These hormonal fluctuations can impact neurotransmitters in the brain, such as serotonin and dopamine, which play a crucial role in regulating mood. As a result, some women may experience mood swings, irritability, or feelings of sadness. It is important for first-time moms to understand that these changes are normal and temporary. By recognizing the influence of hormonal changes on mental health, expectant mothers can better navigate their emotional well-being.
Tips for managing stress and anxiety during pregnancy
Managing stress and anxiety is vital for maintaining mental well-being during pregnancy. Here are some tips to help first-time moms cope with these challenges:
- Practice relaxation techniques: Engaging in activities such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or prenatal yoga can promote relaxation and reduce stress levels.
- Maintain a healthy lifestyle: Eating a balanced diet, getting regular exercise, and getting enough sleep can contribute to overall well-being and help manage stress.
- Seek support from loved ones: Sharing your feelings and concerns with trusted family members or friends can provide emotional support and help alleviate anxiety.
- Educate yourself: Learning about pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting can help reduce fear and anxiety by providing a sense of preparedness.
- Stay organized: Creating a schedule, making to-do lists, and preparing for the arrival of the baby can help reduce feelings of overwhelm and increase a sense of control.
By incorporating these strategies into their daily routine, first-time moms can effectively manage stress and anxiety, promoting a positive mental state during pregnancy.
The role of self-care in maintaining mental well-being
Self-care is crucial for maintaining mental well-being during pregnancy. Taking time for oneself allows expectant mothers to recharge, relax, and focus on their own needs. Here are some self-care practices that first-time moms can incorporate into their routine:
- Prioritize rest and relaxation: Getting enough sleep, taking naps, and indulging in activities that promote relaxation, such as reading or taking baths, can help reduce stress levels.
- Engage in activities you enjoy: Pursuing hobbies, spending time in nature, or engaging in creative outlets can provide a sense of joy and fulfillment, promoting positive mental well-being.
- Practice self-compassion: Acknowledge and accept your emotions, treating yourself with kindness and understanding. Remember that it is normal to have ups and downs during pregnancy.
- Nurture your body: Taking care of physical health, such as eating nutritious meals, staying hydrated, and engaging in gentle exercise, can contribute to a sense of well-being.
By making self-care a priority, first-time moms can better navigate the emotional rollercoaster of pregnancy and promote their mental well-being.
Building a support network during pregnancy
Building a support network is crucial for expectant mothers, especially first-time moms. Having a strong support system can provide emotional reassurance, practical assistance, and a sense of belonging. Here are some ways to build a support network during pregnancy:
- Connect with other expectant mothers: Joining prenatal classes or support groups allows first-time moms to connect with others who are going through similar experiences.
- Reach out to family and friends: Share your thoughts, concerns, and joys with loved ones. They can offer advice, lend a helping hand, or simply be there to listen.
- Consider professional support: Seeking guidance from healthcare providers, such as obstetricians, midwives, or therapists, can provide expert advice and support throughout the pregnancy journey.
By surrounding themselves with a supportive community, first-time moms can feel more confident, validated, and emotionally strong during their pregnancy.
Seeking professional help for mental health issues during pregnancy
If first-time moms are experiencing persistent or severe mental health challenges during pregnancy, seeking professional help is essential. Mental health issues, such as depression or anxiety, should not be ignored or underestimated. Healthcare providers can offer appropriate interventions and support, tailored to the specific needs of expectant mothers. Therapeutic interventions, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy or medication, may be recommended depending on the severity of the mental health condition. Seeking professional help is a proactive step towards ensuring the well-being of both the mother and the baby.
Preparing for the emotional transition into motherhood
Transitioning into motherhood can be emotionally overwhelming for first-time moms. It is important to acknowledge and prepare for the emotional changes that come with becoming a mother. Here are some tips to help navigate this transition:
- Educate yourself: Read books or attend classes about the emotional aspects of motherhood. Understanding the emotional journey can help normalize the experience and reduce anxiety.
- Communicate with your partner: Share your expectations, fears, and hopes with your partner. Open and honest communication can strengthen the bond and provide emotional support.
- Seek guidance from experienced mothers: Connect with mothers who have been through the same experience. Their wisdom and advice can provide reassurance and guidance.
By acknowledging and preparing for the emotional transition into motherhood, first-time moms can navigate this phase with greater ease and confidence.
Postpartum mental health and the importance of ongoing support
The postpartum period is another critical time for mental health. Many women experience the “baby blues,” which include mood swings, tearfulness, and feelings of vulnerability, in the days following childbirth. However, some women may develop more severe mental health conditions, such as postpartum depression or anxiety. It is crucial for first-time moms to be aware of the signs and symptoms and seek support if needed. Ongoing support from healthcare providers, family, and friends is essential in promoting postpartum mental well-being.
Conclusion
Maintaining mental well-being during pregnancy is vital for the overall health and happiness of both expectant mothers and their babies. By understanding the common mental health challenges, managing stress and anxiety, practicing self-care, building a support network, seeking professional help if needed, and preparing for the emotional transition into motherhood, first-time moms can navigate this transformative journey with confidence and resilience. Remember, prioritizing mental well-being is not selfish but a necessary step towards ensuring a healthy and joyful pregnancy.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Feb 22, 2024 | Blog
By Guest Blogger Dr. Hannah Yang
The teen years are not devoid of any challenges, but the barriers that modern adolescent girls face are very different from the ones faced by previous generations.
The rapid advancement of technology and social media expansion, though advantageous in various aspects, introduces new challenges. It’s imperative that young women develop a solid network of support and find proper coping mechanisms for addressing these new roadblocks in their lives.
Resilience and a positive perspective need to be developed at an early stage for them to form the foundation for a happy, healthy future.
Common Challenges on the Path to Adulthood for Adolescent Girls
In their transition to adulthood, young girls come across many challenges that are vital to their personal growth. Although each teen girl’s journey is unique, a considerable number share similar obstacles during this important transformative phase.
Dealing with Social Media and Other Pressures
Staying in touch with friends and family is crucial, and social media has facilitated this, especially over long distances. But there’s a catch to this constant connectivity.
Teen girls frequently face the challenge of upholding a certain image online, influenced by young celebrities and influencers, and the urge to match their peers. This can negatively affect their self-esteem and distort their self-image.
Coping with Academic Pressure from Peers and Family
Education is vital for the development of various life skills. However, the stress to excel in academics, often stemming from family and peer expectations, can be overwhelming. Comparing themselves to friends, parents, or siblings can feel like an uphill battle.
If left unaddressed, this added stress can adversely affect a young girl’s self-esteem, particularly if her achievements don’t meet these high expectations. It’s important for them to recognize that academic performance is not the only measure of intelligence or self-worth.
Feeling the Pressure to Conform
Despite the current generation often being seen as advocates for uniqueness and individualism, the pressure to conform remains a significant issue for many teenage girls. Fitting in with a group can offer a sense of security and belonging, which is an important aspect of social development.
But this urge to blend in can lead girls to compromise their principles and values. This might take the form of drastically altering their appearance or adopting harmful habits to gain acceptance within certain social circles.
The Importance of Resilience in Navigating Teenage Challenges
Teen girls often depend on their network of friends and family for support, which provides a strong base. However, the real tests often arise when they’re alone. This situation highlights the need for resilience.
Resilience involves more than just recovery – it’s about gaining insight from new challenges and applying this knowledge to reinforce personal character and resolve.
Overcoming Adversity
During their teenage years, young girls face various trials, from coping with rejection and failures to enduring traumatic events. Without effective strategies to manage these situations, they can leave lasting impacts, shaping a young woman’s self-esteem and future relationships.
Building resilience, possibly with the help of family or professional support, equips teens with the necessary tools to confront these challenges and grow stronger from them.
Learning From Setbacks
Resilience can be illustrated with the famous phrase, “When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” This technique allows you to find opportunities for learning from challenges experienced and use them for personal development.
The process of gaining insights from tough experiences can be something more than one person experiences. Teaming up with a mentor, joining support circles, or seeking advice from mental health experts in dealing with anxiety or trauma therapy can provide clinical perspectives and much-needed support through difficult times.
Encouraging Thoughtful Decision Making
As adolescents, the feeling of invincibility and a belief in having all the answers is a natural phase. However, this attitude, combined with inexperience, often results in teens making hasty choices with lasting effects.
Building resilience is important in this regard, as it promotes proactive thinking instead of reactionary decision-making. Adolescents learning resilience are more likely to think about the long-term ramifications of their actions, weighing benefits and drawbacks thoughtfully, helping them to make smarter choices.
Develop Better Resilience Today
Cultivating resilience is a continuous process, not a one-time achievement. It requires consistent effort and commitment to establish this quality in individuals. The rewards, however, can be immense and lead to better coping mechanisms, increased self-awareness, and improved relationships.
Author Name: Dr. Hannah Yang
Author Bio: Visionary and healthcare entrepreneur by passion, Licensed Psychologist by training, Dr. Hannah Yang loves creating new possibilities in the world of mental health and wellness. Dr. Yang established Balanced Awakening in 2015 as a niche psychotherapy practice for women. As Balanced Awakening flourishes in Chicago, and soon Miami, she also loves to tap into her passion for design and Feng Shui to create fabulous environments for herself, her team, and clients.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jan 11, 2024 | Blog
While the holidays are synonymous with joy, togetherness, and celebration, the period that follows can prove to be anything but. As the boxes of decorations are moved back into the attic, it’s not uncommon for complex emotions to take over. The phenomenon known as “post-holiday blues” takes place when the chaos of the holidays has come to an end, leaving behind feelings of emptiness, anxiety, and frustration. This slump can have particular effects on mothers, who often take the lead on holiday planning and are therefore more susceptible to the highs and lows of the holiday season and beyond.
The post-holiday blues share many characteristics of anxiety and mood disorders. Sadness, loneliness, anxiety, insomnia, and disappointment are common traits, and are often confined to the winter months.
Emotional labor, expectations, and repression
Mothers often bear the brunt of emotional labor during the holidays. According to research done by the American Psychological Association, women are more likely than men to report an increase of stress during the holiday season, citing lack of time, lack of money, and pressure to give presents as primary stressors. The pressure to buy the perfect gifts, decorate the home, and prepare elaborate meals can be emotionally taxing, and mothers will frequently spend weeks planning, organizing, and ensuring that everyone in the family has a memorable and magical experience.
Social media has contributed to an unrealistic set of expectations surrounding the holiday season. As we scroll through countless posts of elaborately decorated houses and piles of perfectly wrapped presents, it’s easy to find ourselves comparing our holiday celebrations to those of others. Many mothers feel responsible to create a picture-perfect holiday atmosphere for their families, and often face a sense of letdown if they fail to meet these expectations.
The period of Thanksgiving through New Year’s is a chaotic time, and busy parents frequently spend every spare moment focused preparing for celebrations. With so much time and energy focused on others, it is easy to neglect your own mental wellbeing, pushing any negative emotions aside in order to focus on the long list of things that need to get done. January brings time to catch your breath and reflect, leading to weeks of emotions bubbling to the surface. These repressed feelings will be difficult to handle all at once, and will result feeling overwhelmed and burned out.
Manage the post-holiday blues
The post-holiday blues don’t have to be inevitable. Be sure to set boundaries with family and friends in order to avoid stretching yourself too thin, and reach out for help before you begin to feel overwhelmed. If symptoms have already set in, take time to yourself and focus on self-care. Prioritizing things that make you happy are key in escaping the feelings of loneliness and isolation that are all too frequently associated with the winter months. Focus on eating well, exercising, and staying mentally stimulated. Most importantly, be gentle with yourself and remember that, even if the holidays didn’t go as planned, you are still a great mother.
If you are a new mom and worried about how you are feeling, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Contact the North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 to get the necessary support you need.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Dec 28, 2023 | Ask The Guidance Center Experts, Blog
In this monthly column, therapists from North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center answer your questions on issues related to parenting, mental health and children’s well-being. To submit a question, email communications@northshorechildguidance.org.
Question: With the New Year approaching, my daughter comes home from school every day with a different resolution she declares she wants to stick to. I love that she has goals she wants to accomplish, but I want to make sure she isn’t overwhelming herself with too many expectations. How can I help her manage her long list of New Year’s Resolutions, and support her in sticking to the ones she finds important?
-Realizing Realistic Resolutions
Dear Realizing Realistic Resolutions,
As we approach the New Year, many of us are familiar with the enthusiasm our children bring home, declaring a myriad of resolutions they want to accomplish when the clock strikes midnight. It isn’t uncommon for children to overload themselves with things they would like to achieve, widely ranging from eating healthy to becoming the President. Kids need to feel a sense of mastery, and having an abundance of resolutions may make that difficult.
Support is integral in helping kids stay committed to their resolutions. It’s important to begin the conversation by expressing how proud you are of her desire to make choices that will positively impact her and foster an environment of open communication on her journey. Sit down with your child and go over the list together, picking out one or two objectives that are particularly meaningful and realistically achievable. Work together to create a reasonable timeline and break down the goals into smaller, actionable steps. Be sure to celebrate the progress along the way, making the experience enjoyable and enriching for your family. Does she want to be at the top of her class this year? Explain how often she’ll have to study to make that happen and celebrate every A on a test she brings home.
Watch out for signs that your child is overwhelmed, stressed, or frustrated. If she is falling short of her goals and expresses feelings of inadequacy, it’s essential to reassess the situation. This should be an enjoyable experience, so remind your daughter that setbacks are a natural part of growth, and that she can always adjust her resolutions to become more manageable. Always prioritize progress over perfection!
Lastly, encourage making positive changes all year long, not just on New Year’s Day. There is never a bad time to start a goal, and pushing it off until January 1st can make the task more daunting. This goes for adults, too! How often do you wait until the new year to get back into the gym instead of signing up for the membership then and there? New Year’s resolutions can be a great source of motivation, but remember that it’s up to you to make a change in your life, not a date on the calendar.
As the preeminent not-for-profit children’s mental health agency on Long Island, North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center is dedicated to restoring and strengthening the emotional well-being of children (from birth – age 24) and their families. For 70 years, the Guidance Center has been a place of hope and healing, providing innovative and compassionate treatment to all who enter our doors, regardless of their ability to pay. For more information about the Guidance Center, visit www.northshorechildguidance.org or call (516) 626-1971.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Dec 26, 2023 | Blog
It’s the most wonderful time of the year, meant to give us the opportunity to reflect on family, tradition, resolutions and… budgets. The holiday season is characterized primarily by wish lists and last-minute shopping, straying further away from the interconnectedness we all aim for during the winter holidays. When every advertisement is aimed towards getting our children the hottest new toy, kids are led to wonder less about what family members they’ll be seeing and focus more on which presents they’ll be receiving. How do we break out of this cycle? By teaching our kids the gift of gratitude.
Give to the community
Encouraging children to give back to the less fortunate members of their community can allow them to appreciate their privileges more. Suggest that, instead of asking for a toy or game, they put the money towards helping other children. Volunteering at a soup kitchen during the holidays is a great way to bond with your family while connecting to the community. Sit down with your children and figure out what causes they find meaningful, whether it be mental health, fighting hunger, supporting animal shelters, or anything in between. A collaborative conversation with the whole family will show your children the value of a dollar and allow them to realize that the best present isn’t receiving, but giving.
Watch out for overconsumption
Thanks to the advent of two-day shipping and online-only deals, shopping couldn’t be more convenient. This often leads to making purchases on things we have no real need for, simply because it’s accessible. When children see packages arriving on the doorstep multiple times a week, they learn to view spending money on material items as inconsequential and commonplace, even learning to expect new items on a regular basis.
It can be tempting to spoil your children, especially during the holidays. While there’s nothing wrong with showing love through treats and toys, try to avoid getting everything on their wish lists. Instead, begin to teach your child financial literacy and help them determine the difference between gifts that are wants and needs.
In order to keep overconsumption in the household in check during the holidays, it’s important to show kids how to decide if you really need something before purchasing it. Adopt the one in, one out method: if your child asks for a new toy or video game, explain that in order to make room for a new item, another item will get donated to charity. If they aren’t willing to part with any of their old toys or clothes, they probably don’t need something new.
Write thank you letters
Writing thank you letters during the holidays is a great way to practice gratitude. Whether addressing them to family, friends, teachers, or bus drivers, a handwritten letter is a touching way to show your love and appreciation for a person. In a fast-paced world, writing letters is a personal way to teach children to slow down and reflect on all the support and generosity they are given in their day-to-day lives.
Teaching your child the gift of gratitude is an invaluable lesson that will strengthen their relationships with family, community, and themselves for the rest of their lives. As they grow to place less of a value on receiving presents and more on spreading joy and generosity, children and families will be able to appreciate the holiday season in a rewarding and fulfilling way.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Dec 15, 2023 | Blog
The holiday season is often characterized by joy, festivities, and the warmth of family gatherings. However, for those in the role of caretaker to a loved one living with addiction, this time of year brings unique challenges that can be hard to navigate. While others celebrate, caregivers find themselves grappling with the dynamics of addiction, looking to foster compassion and hope during a time that can be trying for both the person in recovery and those aiding in their journey. As difficult as it can be, there are things you can do to make the holidays easier on you and your family.
Lessen the importance of alcohol at your function
Binge drinking is a common occurrence during any major holiday, as it’s easy to let things get out of control during a celebration. If someone with addictive behaviors is attending your function, try to de-emphasize the importance of alcohol. For some, this may mean not offering any alcoholic beverages throughout the night. For others, a variety of mocktails alongside the wine selection will make your loved one feel included without being too tempted to compromise their progress.
Keep to your usual routine
Though it can be tricky to upkeep during the holidays, a structured routine is vital when caregiving for a person struggling with addiction. Sticking to a schedule can lessen the feeling of being out of control during the holiday season, reinforcing a sense of normalcy.
Things like holiday traveling, shopping, and cooking can throw off set schedules. Make life easier on yourself and your loved one by setting alarms, meal-prepping, and choosing to stay local for the holidays.
Manage triggers and anxiety
Whether your loved one is in active addiction or recovery, it is important to understand things that trigger them in order to make family gatherings successful. 1 in 5 people with anxiety report turning to alcohol or substance use in order to cope with stress, so attempting to reduce any major triggers is key in staying on track.
Open communication is integral when managing stressors of any kind, so don’t be afraid to have hard conversations during the holidays. You may want to talk with other family members about conversation topics that are off-limits. Perhaps questions about job hunting or romantic partners are sources of anxiety for the person struggling with addiction; suggest that these inquiries are directed at others or avoided altogether.
Take care of yourself first
When caregiving for someone struggling with addiction, it’s natural to want to devote all your energy towards aiding in their recovery. However, neglecting your own needs will inevitably lead to burnout and exhaustion, impacting your ability to offer effective help to your loved one. Taking care of yourself first involves setting boundaries, both emotional and physical, to protect your mental health. Ensure you make time for self-care activities, whether it’s engaging in hobbies, seeking support from friends and family, or just taking short breaks to recharge. Remember that you are allowed to enjoy the holidays, even if a person close to you is struggling. You are not responsible for the actions of the addicted person, and it is not your problem to fix alone.
Addiction is a challenging journey, and you can only offer meaningful help when you are in a stable and healthy state yourself. In prioritizing your well-being, you position yourself to be a more resilient and supportive caregiver in the long run.
Always remember
The holiday season can be an especially challenging time for those in the role of caregiver for individuals struggling with addiction. The demands of the holidays, coupled with the complexities of managing another’s substance abuse, can create a unique set of stressors. By fostering open communication, setting boundaries, and maintaining routines, caregivers can navigate the holiday season with resilience and provide the vital support your loved ones need.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Dec 8, 2023 | Blog
By Guest Blogger Colleen Stewart
Being a parent is tons of work, so it can be easy to get overwhelmed. After all, there is a seemingly never-ending list of things to do with limited hours in a day. Thankfully, there are many cost-effective ways to stay organized as a parent, even if you have multiple kids, work full-time, and struggle to keep your home neat and tidy.
The Importance of Staying Organized
Keeping your home clean can help reduce stress and strain in many ways. According to Hope Mental Health, clutter makes you focus on things that aren’t important, taking attention away from where it’s most needed. Being disorganized can greatly reduce productivity, and we all know how it feels to get so far behind that we don’t know what the next step should be.
Tips On Staying Organized
Go Digital
Keeping digital copies of medical, school, and other records can be a lifesaver for parents. Saving these documents as PDFs makes it easier to send them to anyone who needs access to your children’s histories, such as doctors’ offices and schools. PDFs can be viewed on any device and don’t require a special operating system. There are many free PDF tools online that allow you to edit, sort, rotate, and convert your documents.
Create a Family Command Center
A family command center is a space where everyone in the house can check to find out what they have to do for the week. It could be in physical form, such as a wall calendar or bulletin board, or you could utilize your smart technology to create a list for everyone in your home.
Purge the Unnecessary
Clutter is a major cause of stress, and the best way to get rid of clutter is to donate or sell things that you no longer need. These items can be given a new life in another family, and they won’t take up space and collect dust on your shelves. The Zebra Blog offers a list of worthwhile charities to consider.
Save Time Using Meal Planning and Bulk Buying
Meal planning and bulk buying groceries are effective strategies for parents to maintain organization in their busy lives. By planning meals in advance, parents can streamline their grocery shopping, ensuring they buy only what is necessary, thus reducing waste and saving time. Bulk buying frequently used items minimizes the need for frequent shopping trips, allowing for better management of time and resources. This approach also aids in budget control, as buying in bulk often comes with savings. Furthermore, meal planning ensures a balanced diet for the family, reducing the stress of last-minute meal decisions and promoting healthier eating habits.
Other Tips
● Be creative. There is no hard and fast set of rules when it comes to being organized. The most important thing is to find a system that works for you and your family. Come up with solutions that fit your lifestyle and budget.
● Change things up. If you find that an organizational system doesn’t work, don’t be shy about changing things up. It’s okay to change course and try something new!
● Streamline your morning routine. If you have kids, your morning routine is likely hectic. By streamlining things, mornings will become that much easier for everyone in the house. Consider using a closet hanging organizer to put several days’ worth of outfits together, so that no one ever has to wonder what they’re going to wear to school, packing lunches the night before, and having backpacks set out at the front door.
Being a parent on a budget means you have to get creative in all aspects of life, and being organized is no exception. Today’s tips, from digitizing your documents to purging your home of clutter, can all help you reduce the stress caused by disorganization.
