by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Sep 26, 2025 | Blog
By Alissa Striano, a volunteer at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
As a volunteer at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center and as a yoga and Pilates instructor, I’ve always been fascinated by the mind-body connection. In my work, I see firsthand how breath, movement, and mindfulness can help regulate the nervous system. But it got me thinking: How do kids learn to calm their bodies and emotions when they’re feeling overwhelmed?
What does it really mean when a child has a dysregulated nervous system? What tools are available to help them feel calm, safe, and in control? And how do modern approaches like sensory rooms and art therapy make a difference?
To explore these questions, I sat down with Dr. Susan Cohen, Director of Clinical Services at the Marks Family Right from the Start 0-3+ Center. With over 30 years of experience at the Guidance Center, Dr. Cohen offers a wealth of knowledge on how emotional regulation develops and how the Guidance Center is meeting the growing mental health needs of children and teens through a variety of creative, therapeutic modalities.
“Kids are showing more anxiety,” says Dr. Cohen. “Especially since the pandemic, children are not as well-equipped to regulate their emotions.” After three decades at the Guidance Center, Cohen has seen the landscape of mental health shift dramatically and today’s children are facing emotional challenges at increasingly younger ages.
One of the reasons? Co-regulation, or rather the lack of it. “This can be brought on by the changes in society that have promoted increased leniency and a lack of boundaries,” she explains. The result is often a cycle of stress and reactive behavior that makes emotional regulation difficult for the whole family.
So, what does a dysregulated nervous system look like in a child?
“There are several layers to it,” Dr. Cohen says. “Some kids are hyperactive, can’t sit still, can’t focus. Others can’t tolerate frustration or being told ‘no.’ They fly off the handle with even mild stress.”
For younger kids especially, it’s not just about behavior; it’s about language. “They don’t have the vocabulary yet to express their feelings,” she says. “So, they act out physically with hitting, tantrums, and meltdowns. Older kids might slam doors or use inappropriate language, but younger ones just don’t have the words.”
That’s where the Guidance Center’s Sensory Room comes in.
A child-centered, multi-sensory environment filled with tools like bubble tubes, tactile walls, weighted blankets, and color-changing fiber optic curtains, it’s a place where over-stimulated children can reset.
“It’s not a one-size-fits-all approach,” Dr. Cohen explains. “Therapists tailor the experience to the child’s needs. One boy who couldn’t make it through traditional sessions without tantrums now finds calm in that space and is even able to talk more openly.”
The goal is to carry what works in the Sensory Room into everyday life. Dr. Cohen encourages parents to try simple tools at home like noise-canceling headphones, weighted stuffed animals, or even Velcro under a desk for discreet tactile input. “There are a lot of little tricks that can make a big difference,” she says.
The Guidance Center also supports children through nature-based therapy in their outdoor garden, The Friends of Nancy Marks Nature Nursery. “We plant vegetables, do arts and crafts outside, and keep the kids unplugged from screens,” says Dr. Cohen. “It’s a different kind of sensory experience. It’s grounding and real.”
Art therapy is another modality used regularly, particularly in group settings like the Girls Empowerment Group. “We use art to help kids build confidence and process emotions,” says Cohen. “It’s especially helpful for those who have trouble expressing themselves verbally.”
What gives Cohen the most hope for the future?
“That parents want help,” she says. “They come here seeking support, connection, and guidance. That tells me people are beginning to understand how important emotional work is and that healing is a process we don’t have to face alone.”
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Sep 19, 2025 | Blog
A Conversation with Clinical Director Denise Ingenito
By Alissa Striano
Over the past few years, AI has made its way into almost every part of our lives—including mental health. With feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression on the rise, especially among teens, many young people are turning to AI-powered apps like Wysa and Youper to talk things out. These apps offer everything from mood tracking to mindfulness tips to conversations modeled after cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). They’re free, available 24/7, and sometimes feel more private than a traditional therapy session.
Let’s be real, teens are already glued to their phones, and talking to an app might feel less intimidating than opening up to a human. But can AI replace therapy?
As a volunteer with a personal interest in the future of AI, I sat down with Denise Ingenito, Clinical Director at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, to talk about it. Denise oversees mental health programs in the agency’s Roslyn Heights and Westbury locations, manages intern training programs, and plays a role in the Guidance Center’s services for kids and families dealing with co-occurring disorders.
Real People, Real Healing
At the Guidance Center, Denise and her team offer way more than just talk therapy.
“We have two girls’ groups for self-esteem, two boys’ groups, an LGBTQ+ group, an anti-bullying group, and parent groups,” she told me. “There’s also our Wilderness Respite Program where teens hike every other week, a Latina girls’ group, and our Community and Home-Based Services team that goes directly into homes to work with both kids and parents.” These programs are built on relationships, empathy, and human connection—everything AI can’t replicate.
Initial Reactions to AI Therapy
When the topic of AI therapy came up in their monthly clinical meeting, Denise said the room was split. “Some clinicians were really concerned about where AI is headed. Others saw it as a useful tool, but only in certain areas, like helping with notetaking or organizing treatment plans.”
Her personal take? “I think AI is potentially dangerous when used for therapy. It’s not really challenging clients or helping them examine distorted thinking. It’s just validating everything they say, and that’s not always helpful.” She added that while AI might be great for tasks like scheduling or documentation, therapists have to be careful not to let technology create cookie-cutter treatment plans.
What About Teens Using AI for Support?
Some teens do use AI tools late at night to vent or journal, Denise explained. And while it might be nice to get something off your chest, there’s no processing involved—just one-way communication.
“A robot doesn’t have empathy. It’s not going to gently challenge you or say, ‘Hey, that doesn’t sound quite right.’”
She also brought up a real example: A student at Bellmore High School texted a live counselor during class, saying she was thinking about hurting herself. Because a human was on the other end, they were able to intervene and get her help immediately. “That would never happen with AI,” Denise said. “There’s nothing better than a human response.”
Can AI Fill the Gaps in Underserved Communities?
When I asked Denise if AI could help kids in underserved areas throughout Long Island, she was skeptical. “A lot of them don’t even have access to technology’s mental health tools. And many kids can’t tell the difference between credible resources and harmful advice on TikTok.”
At Westbury High School, the Guidance Center actually has a clinician on-site to work with teens that are dealing with substance abuse and mental health issues—something Denise hopes to see more of in Nassau County. The New York State Office of Mental Health is pushing for mental health services to be implemented in schools, and the Guidance Center is fully on board with that.
Blending Tech with Therapy (The Right Way)
Still, the Guidance Center isn’t totally anti-tech. Denise mentioned a clinician who uses handheld devices to help kids express emotions through short games. “We’ll play a five-minute game and then have a conversation about how they felt. It opens the door.”
She also brought up storytelling in trauma work—an area where technology could one day play a bigger role. But she emphasized that AI should be a tool, not a replacement. “We need to educate both clinicians and the public about the pros and cons of AI. It’s already shaping our decision-making, even in the simplest ways. I mean, we’re asking apps what to have for breakfast.”
So… Where Does AI Really Belong?
At the end of the day, AI therapy isn’t black and white. It can offer comfort in the moment, help fill small gaps, and even assist therapists behind the scenes—but it can’t truly replace human connection, empathy, or judgment.
As we look toward the future of mental health care, especially for teens, the real question isn’t if we should use AI, but how we use it. Will we treat it as a quick fix, or will we stay focused on building real relationships, one conversation at a time?