More than 300 guests attended North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s annual spring luncheon. This year’s event, which supports the guidance center’s mission to restore and strengthen the emotional well-being of children and their families, garnered a record-breaking $120,000.
The gathering at Glen Head Country Club began with games of Mahjong and Canasta accompanied by exclusive boutique shopping from Long Island small businesses, including A2Z Loungewear, Becca London Jewelry, Chick Magnet, the Chintz Giraffe, DASH, Excessorize, Gallery Couture, Glam Mom New York, Meems, Stone Sisters, and 2 Friends.
The keynote speaker was Lisa McCarthy, CEO and co-founder of the Fast Forward Group, a leadership development and executive coaching firm. A Port Washington native, McCarthy is known for delivering inspirational sessions worldwide.
The North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, located in Roslyn Heights, raised a record-breaking $300,000 at their 30th Annual Jonathan Krevat Memorial Golf Classic on Monday, June 29.
The golf outing was hosted at Fresh Meadow Country Club with 150 attendees and featured an honoree and a guest speaker.
This year’s honoree was Katy Kamen, an attorney at Groom Law Group and a longtime supporter of the guidance center.
“The work of the Guidance Center ensures that children and families have someone to turn to when they need help most,” Kamen said in a press release. “It creates hope where there may be fear, and strength where there may be uncertainty.”
Sammie O’Connor is a 13-year-old client at the guidance center who has been receiving their services since she was in second grade. As this year’s guest speaker, she shared her story of how the guidance center helped her overcome challenges associated with her anxiety.
“I can’t count the number of people who came up afterwards, just to say how proud they were of her,” said the guidance center’s associate executive director, Jenn Rush. “That was really a highlight, I think, for many people.”
Sammie said in a press release that her journey with anxiety is not over, but the guidance center has given her the resources and strategies to continue moving forward.
“I am so grateful for everything I’ve learned and for the opportunity to grow in such a supportive environment,” Sammie said.
This year’s donations to the guidance center will allow them to expand their services outside their main offices.
“We’re really focused on putting one of our clinicians in a family homeless shelter in Nassau County as a way to embed our services for folks that can’t get to us,” Rush said. “Funds like this allow us the room to step out of what we typically do.”
Rush said that the shelter is for women and children, the guidance center’s target group to serve.
“Doing something like this allows us to get in the community to try to address issues that we see families struggling with before it becomes a crisis,” Rush said.
Rush said she speaks to the different clinicians at the guidance center and asks if they have had any clients with a recent success story that they would like to share. Sammie was given free rein for what she prepared for her speech.
“She jumped at it,” Rush said. “It was a challenge for her that she wanted to take.”
Rush said that within those $300,000, the most beneficial type of donation the guidance center can receive is unrestricted funds.
“It allows us to plug it into whatever sort of programmatic need we have in the moment,” Rush said.
The guidance center hosts four major fundraisers a year, with the golf outing being one of the largest. Rush said the small team of event organizers plans these fundraisers year round, and they are supported by their volunteer network.
“We have a great volunteer team, both external and internal to the agency,” Rush said. “It does take a village, and there’s so many different ways someone can be involved with the agency.”
Rush said that while the honorees and guest speakers are important to the guidance center, she also recognizes the behind-the-scenes work of the clinicians who support their clients’ growth.
“While that’s not celebrated publicly, for me, that’s as rewarding as seeing Sammie be able to speak and tell her story,” Rush said. “It does take a whole team to get an individual from a place of darkness or struggle into a place of functionality and joy.”
The routine donors, philanthropists, and businesspeople in attendance at the golf outing are part of the global picture that it takes to deliver counseling services to the community.
“Many people have heard of the guidance center, but may not know the depth of services we provide,” Rush said. “While the fundraising allows us to continue to be creative and expand, the success really comes from the dedication of the folks that do the hard work.”
The guidance center’s next event will be their annual Hope and Healing Gala on Friday, Sept. 18.
The North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, located in Roslyn Heights, raised a record-breaking $300,000 at their 30th Annual Jonathan Krevat Memorial Golf Classic on Monday, June 29.
The golf outing was hosted at Fresh Meadow Country Club with 150 attendees and featured an honoree and a guest speaker.
This year’s honoree was Katy Kamen, an attorney at Groom Law Group and a longtime supporter of the guidance center.
“The work of the Guidance Center ensures that children and families have someone to turn to when they need help most,” Kamen said in a press release. “It creates hope where there may be fear, and strength where there may be uncertainty.”
Sammie O’Connor is a 13-year-old client at the guidance center who has been receiving their services since she was in second grade. As this year’s guest speaker, she shared her story of how the guidance center helped her overcome challenges associated with her anxiety.
“I can’t count the number of people who came up afterwards, just to say how proud they were of her,” said the guidance center’s associate executive director, Jenn Rush. “That was really a highlight, I think, for many people.”
Sammie said in a press release that her journey with anxiety is not over, but the guidance center has given her the resources and strategies to continue moving forward.
“I am so grateful for everything I’ve learned and for the opportunity to grow in such a supportive environment,” Sammie said.
This year’s donations to the guidance center will allow them to expand their services outside their main offices.
“We’re really focused on putting one of our clinicians in a family homeless shelter in Nassau County as a way to embed our services for folks that can’t get to us,” Rush said. “Funds like this allow us the room to step out of what we typically do.”
Rush said that the shelter is for women and children, the guidance center’s target group to serve.
“Doing something like this allows us to get in the community to try to address issues that we see families struggling with before it becomes a crisis,” Rush said.
Rush said she speaks to the different clinicians at the guidance center and asks if they have had any clients with a recent success story that they would like to share. Sammie was given free rein for what she prepared for her speech.
“She jumped at it,” Rush said. “It was a challenge for her that she wanted to take.”
Rush said that within those $300,000, the most beneficial type of donation the guidance center can receive is unrestricted funds.
“It allows us to plug it into whatever sort of programmatic need we have in the moment,” Rush said.
The guidance center hosts four major fundraisers a year, with the golf outing being one of the largest. Rush said the small team of event organizers plans these fundraisers year round, and they are supported by their volunteer network.
“We have a great volunteer team, both external and internal to the agency,” Rush said. “It does take a village, and there’s so many different ways someone can be involved with the agency.”
Rush said that while the honorees and guest speakers are important to the guidance center, she also recognizes the behind-the-scenes work of the clinicians who support their clients’ growth.
“While that’s not celebrated publicly, for me, that’s as rewarding as seeing Sammie be able to speak and tell her story,” Rush said. “It does take a whole team to get an individual from a place of darkness or struggle into a place of functionality and joy.”
The routine donors, philanthropists, and businesspeople in attendance at the golf outing are part of the global picture that it takes to deliver counseling services to the community.
“Many people have heard of the guidance center, but may not know the depth of services we provide,” Rush said. “While the fundraising allows us to continue to be creative and expand, the success really comes from the dedication of the folks that do the hard work.”
The guidance center’s next event will be their annual Hope and Healing Gala on Friday, Sept. 18.
Summer is a prime time for stress and anxiety levels to skyrocket. Having kids home running around mixed with the blazing heat is not always the best combo. It is important to have ways to lighten your load and recognize when you need a moment to step away.
Write out your schedule
The summer months can get very booked very fast, and it can be daunting to remember every detail of every day. Having a clear cut schedule is one of the most efficient ways to see and understand everything you have going on without becoming overwhelmed.
Whether it’s in a planner or on a full-fledged calendar, writing things down boosts memory retention and reduces your cognitive load, helping you avoid scrambling to remember every miniscule detail. This also gives way to enhanced focus; if you were to draft a digital version, you might be more susceptible to distractions online. Writing everything makes for better time management, and a significantly lower chance of overscheduling yourself.
Put away time for yourself
Make sure that you are leaving at least a little bit of free time on the calendar for yourself. Whether your schedule is jam packed or on the lighter side, self-care time is encouraged and incredibly helpful, especially for those who get overwhelmed by the summer craze.
Alone time is incredibly important for mental health and well-being. Slowing down and taking a break allows for your nervous system to calm down and lower cortisol levels. Time with yourself creates a space for personal growth, and the ability to explore what you are interested in. Believe it or not, time spent away from others actually strengthens relationships! Absence really does make the heart grow fonder, and spending some time alone gives you new perspectives and experiences to share with others when you step back into your normal routine.
Practice patience
Kids are bright, full of energy and, of course, you love them. That being said, sometimes their energy and yours don’t line up, and it can be easy to get frustrated.
If you physically feel yourself getting overwhelmed, step away for ten seconds and take a deep breath or two. This lowers your impulse to yell. It is easy to get annoyed when your children don’t listen or are simply bouncing off the walls with energy. When this happens, you have to remind yourself that they are still mentally developing just as they are physically. They are adopting skills for emotional regulation, but they haven’t fully figured it out just yet. You need to remember that they aren’t adults, they are kids, so you can’t expect them to act as if they are fully grown. You can also use grounding techniques to distract and calm your mind from the feelings bubbling up, such as naming five things you see, four things you touch, three you hear, two you smell, and one you taste.
I got angry. What should I do?
It’s important to give yourself grace when you lose control. It is a perfectly normal thing to happen, and sometimes you aren’t able to recognize when you get too overwhelmed. That being said, it is important to take steps to ensure that you are less likely to get angry in the future.
Use this as a teaching moment. Take a few seconds to yourself to calm down first. Make sure that you regulate your emotions before going to help your child with theirs. Then, get to eye level and apologize to your child, letting them know you made a mistake. Be sure to validate their feelings and tell them that it is okay to feel how they are feeling. Take accountability for your actions and ensure your child that you should have spoken in a more calm way. It is normal to get angry sometimes, so remember to practice self-compassion
This is an incredibly powerful teaching moment not only for your child but for yourself too. It is a good step in the child learning about regulating emotions and how to deal with conflict. For yourself, it is good to learn what your triggers are and how you can take the necessary steps to recognize and redirect your frustration so that you can be better about it in the future.
If you are having trouble or need support, North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center provides many helpful services. For more information, please call (516) 626-1971.
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Question: My child was recently diagnosed with autism, and I’m feeling completely overwhelmed trying to navigate the special education and IEP process. I know they need extra support in school, but I don’t know the terminology, what services I should be asking for, or just where to begin. How can I advocate for my child with special needs when I feel completely lost in the process?
Answer: Receiving an autism diagnosis for your child can bring a flood of emotions. For many parents, there is relief in finally having answers, but also fear, confusion, and uncertainty about what comes next. Suddenly, you are introduced to a world of evaluations, meetings, timelines, and educational terminology that can feel impossible to navigate. If you feel overwhelmed by the IEP process, you are not alone.
An Individualized Education Program (IEP) is designed to help children with disabilities receive the support they need to succeed in school. But for parents new to the process, it can feel intimidating. You may find yourself sitting across from teachers, psychologists, therapists, and administrators, all using language you have never heard before. It is natural to worry about saying the wrong thing or missing an opportunity to get your child the help they need.
One of the best ways to reduce anxiety surrounding the IEP process is to focus on preparation, not perfection. Start by writing down your concerns and specific examples of how autism impacts your child’s daily life. Are they struggling socially? Having sensory overload? Difficulty communicating needs or transitioning between activities? Concrete examples help schools better understand your child’s needs.
It can also help to organize evaluations, medical reports, therapy notes, or recommendations from outside providers before meetings. These documents help create a fuller picture of your child and can strengthen requests for services and accommodations.
Parents should also know they have the right to request evaluations and services in writing. Submitting a written request to the Committee on Special Education (CSE) creates a formal timeline schools are required to follow. Even a simple written request documents your concerns and ensures they are acknowledged.
Another important reminder is that you do not have to go through this process alone.
At North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, our Family Peer Advocates (FPAs) help parents navigate the challenges of special education and IEP planning. These advocates are parents themselves who have firsthand experience raising children with special needs. They understand the emotional weight families carry because they have lived it themselves.
A Family Advocate can attend meetings with you, explain terminology, help you prepare questions, and provide guidance on available supports. Sometimes simply having another person in the room who understands the system can make parents feel more confident and less isolated.
It is also important to remember that an IEP is not permanent. It is a living document that can evolve as your child grows and their needs change. If a plan is not working, additional meetings can be requested, services can be adjusted, and goals can be revised.
Advocating for your child does not mean having all the answers. It means continuing to ask questions, seek support, and trust your instincts about what your child needs to thrive.
Your child deserves support. And you deserve support too.
If your family is struggling to receive additional support for your child, you are not alone. Call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 to get connected with our Community and Home-Based Services today.
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, Long Island’s preeminent not-for-profit children’s mental health agency, has recently elected two new members to our Board of Directors.
June Levine, LCSW, of Syosset, former social worker at Covenant House NY in Manhattan, has been appointed to the Board of Directors at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center in Roslyn Heights.
Lauren Schiff, of Port Washington, former teacher at Rodeph Sholom Day School in Manhattan, has been appointed to the Board of Directors at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center in Roslyn Heights.
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center has announced its annual Spring Luncheon.
The event will be held at the Glen Head Country Club on Thursday, April 28, from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. The keynote speaker will be Lisa McCarthy, CEO and co-founder of Fast Forward Group, a leadership development and executive coaching company known for accelerating growth and innovation, elevating talent, and transforming culture.
The day will begin with games of mahjong, canasta, bridge and samba, along with shopping at a variety of Long Island’s trendiest and most charitable boutiques, including A2Z Loungewear, Becca London Jewelry, DASH, Gallery Couture, 2 Friends Clothing and more.
Due to popular demand, the Guidance Center’s line of signature jewelry featuring the calendula flower — widely known for its healing properties — will return with an expanded selection. This symbol will adorn an elegant assortment of necklaces and earrings, representing the nonprofit’s mission to provide hope and healing — the perfect gift in support of mental health awareness.
With everything from jewelry and apparel to accessories and home goods, there is something for everyone at the Spring Luncheon. There will also be opportunities to participate in raffles for luxury prizes, including a $500 gift certificate to Americana Manhasset, artwork from Leon+Good Gallery and diamond studs valued at $4,000.
Registration is now open, and sponsorships are available at northshorechildguidance.org/luncheon2026 or by calling 516-626-1971, ext. 378.
An acoustic guitar duo sings “When Will I Be Loved,” the music covering the sounds of children playing indoors at the Great South Bay Brewery in Bay Shore while parents enjoy a beer and a Giants game on the big screens one recent Sunday afternoon.
Michael Fusco, 38, of Ronkonkoma, who works in sales, has brought his son, Anthony, 3, and daughter, Melody, 4 months old. Anthony tosses a miniature football to Fusco’s co-worker Josh Dellett, 24, of Hauppauge. “Not so hard. Throw it soft,” says Fusco while holding Melody. “He loves anywhere he can run around a bit.”
Some breweries on Long Island embrace families as a target market, welcoming them into cavernous indoor beer halls with long picnic-style tables, offering games like Uno or cornhole and special events such as contests in which kids compete to eat a doughnut hanging from a string without using their hands.
While some breweries across the country have banned children, that’s not the case on Long Island, brewery managers and owners say. “We’re always going to be a kid-friendly, family-friendly place,” says Luke Heneghan, who co-owns Bright Eye Beer Co. in Long Beach. “We’ve read articles about kids being an issue, but we haven’t had a major issue with parents not being in control of their kids. It’s not a free-for-all. It’s not ‘Lord of the Flies’ in here.” That classic novel often read in high schools is about a group of boys stranded on a deserted island who devolve into violence.
Some breweries reserve the right to limit families during certain times. At Great South Bay Brewery in Bay Shore, a sign next to a children’s arcade machine with stuffed animal prizes reminds: “No kids or dogs after 6 p.m. on Saturdays. After 6 p.m. we become a 21+ establishment.”
A COMMUNITY SPACE
Danielle Sharaby-Glasser, 40, a nurse practitioner from Long Beach, spends a recent Sunday at Bright Eye with her husband, Joseph Glasser, 45, who works in sales, and their children, Ryan, 11, Jolie, 8, and Everett, 3. She calls breweries community spaces. “We like to play Uno as a family when we come here,” Sharaby-Glasser says.
Ryan plays cornhole outside in front of the brewery with Everett. “I like their Shirley Temples, and I like to play pool upstairs,” Ryan says. “It’s a place where you can just chill.”
People typically don’t visit a brewery with the goal of getting drunk, says Brendan Maxim, the brewer at Bright Eye. Breweries usually only sell beer, not other types of alcohol, he says.
Dan LaManna, 39, a teacher from Long Beach, calls Bright Eye “a fun meeting place. I’m not going to bring my kids to a regular bar. It’s definitely a different vibe here.” LaManna brought his children Greyson, 7, and Dahlia, 5.
One patron describes the brewery as a middle ground between gathering at home and visiting a more intense partying venue. Others say it allows parents to socialize and be with their children at the same time. And kids aren’t the only family members people can bring — families even bring along their dogs.
The upstairs room at the two-story Bright Eye has open space and couches and chairs, and children are running and playing during the brewery’s annual fall festival. A mother and son play cards at one table; at another, children color while their parents relax.
ANY COMPLAINTS?
Lorenz Zaragoza, 38, who lives in Long Beach and works in sales, passes a recent Sunday afternoon at Bright Eye with his six children, ages 8, 6, 5, 3, 2 and 1. It allows him and his wife, Katie, 36, a stay-at-home mother, to enjoy some time out without having to hire a babysitter, he says.
Fusco says he likes that he can bring his toddler and baby to the Great South Bay Brewery and give his wife, Ashley, 35, who works in purchasing, a needed break. “My wife has time to herself,” Fusco says. “Hopefully taking a nap.”
Luke Mason, 29, who works in marketing, and Sara Frank, 29, a data analyst, don’t have children. They stop at Great South Bay Brewery for a meal on their way home to New Jersey after a friend’s wedding. They say sharing space with kids doesn’t bother them.
“As long as they’re well-behaved, it really doesn’t make a difference,” Mason says.
Do other patrons ever complain about children being in the brewery?
“We do,” says Christopher Chiarelli, who works as a bartender at Great South Bay. It’s frustrating when people don’t supervise their children and they’re running around where they shouldn’t be, he says. “This isn’t a day care,” he says.
“At the end of the day, it’s an adult space,” Torres says. “We don’t care if kids get up and move about. They just have to be supervised at all times. It’s when it’s getting a little unruly it’s difficult.”
As for whether there’s a concern about exposing young children to a setting where alcohol is served, Laura Siddons, who runs The Nesting Place family wellness center in Farmingdale, Yaphank and Merrick, says so long as parents are being safe and choosing a designated driver, she doesn’t see an issue. She has gone to breweries occasionally with her 7- year-old twins and 9-year-old.
“It’s a very personal decision. As a mother myself, I don’t think a child in a brewery is the issue per se. It’s what we’re doing while we’re there,” she says. She points out that parents take children to restaurants where adults order drinks. “You go to a fall festival, they’re serving alcohol there, too. We live in a culture where kids are around parents drinking all the time,” she says.
Kathleen Rivera, a licensed social worker and executive director and chief executive officer of the Roslyn Heights-based North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center, encourages parents to make sure they ask themselves why they are choosing a brewery for a family outing when there are so many other choices on Long Island. If they have a family history of substance abuse or trauma involving alcohol, for instance, a better choice would be other places that have a different type of focus, she says.
The Kuster and Bass families bring their children to Great South Bay Brewery after picking pumpkins at the nearby Brightwaters Farms. They monitor the children, Kuster siblings Sophia, 4, and Aidan, 2, and Bass siblings Jacob, 4, and Olivia, 2, as they play near the table. “They can make a mess and no one cares. It’s loud, so you can make noise. They can take up as much space as they want,” says Alex Bass, 34, a project manager from Massapequa Park.
Aidan had just spilled his water under the table. But the reaction of the brewery sums up why families like it.
Says Patrick Kuster, 38, a wealth adviser from Massapequa: “Nobody cares about spilled water. Get the pun?”
Event celebrated North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s transformative work
Originally published in Schneps Media on November 6, 2025
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s Bright Futures Gala was a night to remember, celebrating the transformative work of the Long Island’s premiere nonprofit children’s mental health organization. Held on October 25, 2025, at Engineers Country Club, the event brought together community leaders, supporters, and friends to raise over $375,000 in support of the organization’s vital programs and services.
The evening honored Tommy Shevlin, President of the Nassau County Police Benevolent Association, for his dedication to the Guidance Center’s mission. Shevlin, who himself struggled with mental health, is a passionate advocate for expanding access to mental health resources for first responders and their families.
“As a police officer, I’ve seen firsthand the toll that mental health challenges can take on children, families, and our community,” said Shevlin. “These issues are often misunderstood and can cause lifelong struggles, but the Guidance Center confronts them head on and truly makes a difference in the lives of those who need it most.”
The gala featured a dazzling Candlelight Concert performance, with a string quartet performing hits throughout the decades surrounded by the light of over 3,000 candles.
“Though the world is filled with uncertainty, there is one thing we will always be sure of: our commitment to providing quality, compassionate mental health care to everyone who walks through our doors, regardless of their ability to pay,” said Alexis Siegel, President of the Guidance Center’s Board of Directors. “This important work is thanks to you. Today, you chose to show up for the most vulnerable members of our community. Everyone in this room has given a child the chance to not only survive but thrive.”
Kathy Rivera, the Guidance Center’s Executive Director/CEO, thanked the evening’s Emcee, Stacey Sager of Channel 7 Eyewitness News, and the sponsors of the event: The Kupferberg Foundation; Andrea & Michael Leeds; Americana Manhasset; Ruth Fortunoff Cooper & Brian Cooper; Nancy & Lew Lane; The Bahnik Foundation; Davis & Ferber, LLP; Douglas Elliman Real Estate, LLC; NSPC Brain & Spine Surgery; Jane & Martin Schwartz; WABC-TV; John Beyer Music/Amy & John Beyer; Fusco, Brandenstein & Rada, P.C.; Mary Margiotta & Vasu Krishnamurther; Lisa & Sean McCarthy; Miller & Caggiano, LLP; Nassau County Detectives Charitable Foundation; National Grid; Lauren & Jonathan Schiff; and Alexis & Howard Siegel.
The center’s highly trained staff of psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, vocational rehabilitation counselors and other mental health professionals lead the way in diagnosis, treatment, prevention, training, parent education, research and advocacy.
The Guidance Center helps children and families address issues such as depression and anxiety; developmental delays; bullying; teen pregnancy; sexual abuse; teen drug and alcohol abuse; trauma; and family crises stemming from illness, death and divorce.
For over 70 years, the Guidance Center has been a place of hope and healing, providing innovative and compassionate treatment to all who enter our doors, regardless of their ability to pay. For more information about the Guidance Center, visit www.northshorechildguidance.org or call (516) 626-1971.
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center will honor Nassau County Police Benevolent Association President Tommy Shevlin at its Bright Futures Gala on Oct. 25, at Engineers Country Club.
The gala, the organization’s largest annual fundraiser, will feature the internationally acclaimed Candlelight Concert, with a string quartet performing pop classics reimagined in a classical style.
Mary Margiotta and Vasu Krishnamurthy, along with Tracey & Seth Kupferberg, are serving as event co-chairs. Andrea & Michael Leeds are honorary co-chairs, while Lauren & Jonathan Schiff will serve as journal co-chairs. Stacey Sager, a reporter for WABC-TV’s Eyewitness News will emcee the evening.
“The Guidance Center offers vital services that benefit so many local families in need,” said Margiotta. “With rates of suicide and mental health challenges in young people on the rise, we are proud that Tommy Shevlin is lending his support and leadership to shine a light on these issues. We are honored to celebrate his dedication to our mission at this year’s Bright Futures Gala.”
“As a longtime board member, I’ve witnessed firsthand how the Guidance Center transforms lives by providing hope, healing, and vital mental health care for children and families,” said Kupferberg. “The Bright Futures Gala is not just a celebration—it’s a powerful way for our community to come together to ensure that every child has access to the support they need to thrive.”
Executive Director Kathy Rivera said proceeds from the event will ensure the Guidance Center can continue offering mental health services to children and families regardless of their ability to pay.
The gala will feature delicious food, live music on a stage decorated with over 2,000 candles, and fabulous auction and raffle prizes.
To learn more about becoming a sponsor or an underwriter or purchasing tickets, please visit www.northshorechildguidance.org/gala2025, call (516) 626-1971 ext. 378 or email mlalonde@northshorechildguidance.org.
By Denise Ingenito, LCSW, Director of Clinical Services at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
Originally Published in Schneps Media on July 25
Summer brings endless possibilities, whether it’s basking at the beach, riding roller coasters… or fighting with family. Vacations introduce stressors that might not come up at home, making it difficult to manage a packed itinerary and tired children alike.
Though many aspects of a trip are out of your control, parents do have a say in how they plan for and confront conflict that arises. A realistic outlook and openness to improvisation can help to ensure that your summer outing brings the family closer together, not further apart.
Traveling with Kids of Different Ages
Planning a vacation that accommodates children of all ages can prove to be quite a feat. Teenagers often desire freedom and time on their own, which might not always mesh with the rest of the family’s plans. Find activities that allow them to explore independently while still being safely supervised. Encourage them to take on leadership roles in group activities, but avoid putting too much responsibility on their shoulders.
For younger children, the disruption to their routines can lead to stressful moments. Be prepared for some flexibility in their schedules; if nap times or mealtimes get thrown off, don’t sweat it—just build some extra downtime into the itinerary. Keep an eye on their energy levels and emotional cues to gauge when they might need a break.
Set Expectations
Everyone has a vision of what a great vacation looks like, and these ideas can vary widely. Are you headed for a calming lakeside retreat or an action-packed adventure? By discussing and aligning on what each person hopes to get out of the trip, you can set realistic expectations and ensure that everyone is excited and prepared for the days ahead.
Encourage your children to express their interests and preferences. While not everything can be tailored to their exact wishes, giving them a voice in the planning process can help them feel more invested and willing to compromise. It’s all about finding a balance where everyone’s needs are considered, even if they’re not fully met.
Set Boundaries
Traveling brings a whirlwind of activity, and there will come a point when everyone needs a breather. Setting boundaries is key to managing feelings of overstimulation and irritation. Designate some downtime for the adults to relax and for the kids to enjoy some independent play. If teenagers have been taking on extra responsibilities, make sure they get time to themselves, too.
Create space for individual needs and moments of respite. This can mean independent play for the kids or periods where everyone can unwind individually. Respecting these boundaries helps prevent conflicts and ensures that everyone returns to the planned activities feeling refreshed.
Dealing with Disappointment
Even with the best-laid plans, no vacation is perfect. Conflicts and disappointments are inevitable, but how you handle them can make a big difference. If things don’t go as planned, take the time to acknowledge and discuss the feelings of disappointment. Reflect on what could have been better and what you can do differently next time.
Be sure to focus on the positives as well! What went smoothly? What was everyone’s favorite part? What made you laugh? Sharing these reflections with your family can help to shift the focus from disappointments to memorable moments. Opening the door to these conversations fosters a positive outlook and helps everyone appreciate the trip more fully.
After the Vacation
Once the vacation is over, take some time to review and savor the highlights. Break out the photo album and discuss your favorite moments from the trip. These discussions can create lasting memories that bring you closer together, even when things don’t go exactly as planned.
To learn about our lifesaving programs, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org. In case of an emergency after hours, contact our partners at Long Island Crisis Center, (516) 679-1111.
Originally Published in Schneps Media on July 18, 2025
In this monthly column, therapists from North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center answer your questions on issues related to parenting, mental health, and children’s well-being. To submit a question, email communications@northshorechildguidance.org.
Question: My teenage daughter has become increasingly distraught over the growing ICE raids on Long Island. At first, we tried to reassure her by explaining that those without a criminal record would not be targeted. But as recent reports have shown otherwise, she’s grown more anxious and fearful, especially for our family members who have lived in the U.S. for decades. She’s been struggling with sleepless nights and a level of nervousness we’ve never seen before. She’s even been apprehensive about going to school. How can we help her manage this very real fear and regain a sense of safety and stability?
Answer: Your daughter’s fear is both personal and entirely rational. The threat of family separation has a profound psychological impact on young people, especially those with loved ones who may be undocumented.
According to the American Immigration Council, more than 4 million children in the U.S. live with at least one undocumented parent. The fear your daughter is experiencing is unfortunately not uncommon. One of the most helpful things you can do is talk openly with her about what your family is doing to stay safe and prepared. Reassure her that there are steps in place, and remind her that she is not alone. Discuss news events as a family to help to manage her uncertainty and allow you to ensure she has accurate information about the situation at hand. When symptoms of distress and anxiety emerge, encourage her to express her emotions freely, and consider seeking support from a counselor familiar with trauma and immigration-related anxiety.
At North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, we’ve seen how news of intensified immigration enforcement has created waves of anxiety across our community. In response, we took swift and compassionate action to support the vulnerable children and families we serve.
Working in consultation with legal experts, we’ve implemented trauma-informed protocols across all our sites. While we do not provide legal advice, our staff has been trained to respond in ways that prioritize safety, ethics, and emotional support. Most importantly, our clinicians work closely with families to create emergency action plans that can provide a sense of control and stability during uncertain times. These plans often include identifying trusted adults who can care for children, securing written permissions for school pickups, and ensuring there’s a network of supports in place if a caregiver is detained or deported.
Knowing there’s a plan and a team of caring adults looking out for her and your family can go a long way toward easing her fears. Though the world may feel unpredictable, a stable support system will allow her to begin rebuilding a sense of security in the face of uncertainty.
To learn about our lifesaving programs, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org. In case of an emergency after hours, contact our partners at Long Island Crisis Center, (516) 679-1111.
Event raises over $175,000 to support children’s mental health
Published in the Long Island Press
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, the preeminent not-for-profit children’s mental health agency on Long Island, hosted the Jonathan Krevat Memorial Golf Classic on June 2, 2025, at the outstanding Sands Point Golf Club. The event raised over $175,000 to support the Guidance Center’s work to bring hope and healing to children and families dealing with mental health challenges.
“With suicide serving as the second leading cause of death among children ages 10-14, the mission of the Guidance Center is more important than ever before,” said Troy Slade, Board Member and Co-Chair of the event. “Children and teens are facing unprecedented challenges that contribute to rising rates of depression, substance use, and suicidal ideation. We are all so grateful to our many friends, colleagues, and family members who came out to support this vital organization that makes a real difference for the children in our community.”
This year’s guest speaker was 13-year-old Fernanda Rivera, who began therapy at the Guidance Center in the 2nd grade when her mother noticed that she had lost interest in school, hobbies, and friends. She was eventually diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and through therapy, gained the tools to express herself and manage overwhelming emotions. “The Guidance Center paved the way for me to heal and discover who I am,” said Fernanda. “I’m so grateful to all the people who have helped me along the way, from my clinical team to my family, who never gave up on me and made sure I never gave up on myself.”
Fernanda was joined by her mother, Amanda Pena, who shared her perspective as a parent. “When my daughter was 8, I knew something wasn’t right,” she reflected. “She used to love going to school and being active, but that had all changed. She was no longer motivated, and she was so anxious about things she used to look forward to. The Guidance Center has been a miracle for my family. Us parents always want to do what is best for our kids, but we can’t do it alone. I am so grateful for the work of this organization, who gave my daughter the ability to take control of her own life.”
The co-chairs for this year’s Krevat Cup were Board Members Michael Mondiello, Dan Oliver, Michael Schnepper and Troy Slade.
The Guidance Center is grateful to the Krevat Cup’s sponsors: Aon, Susan & Jeff Krevat, NFP, Canon Solutions America, SkyBridge Capital, and the Bahnik Foundation. Special thanks to our corporate foursomes: City National Rochdale, the Levine Group, Newmark, PSEG Long Island, Rivkin Radler, and RT Specialty.
Kathy Rivera is executive director and chief executive officer of North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, Long Island’s premier children’s mental health organization that focuses on bringing hope and healing to young people struggling with a wide range of emotional challenges. Since taking on the leadership role in 2021, Rivera has successfully managed operations of the renowned agency amid a mental health crisis that continues to be marked by alarming rates of anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation among children and teens.
Rivera, who earned her Bachelor of Arts from Hunter College of the City University of New York and her Master of Social Work from the Hunter College School of Social Work, has 30 years of experience as a licensed clinical social worker, along with an expertise in management. Her deep knowledge of clinical treatment, mental health policy and government facilitates profound insights and perspective on the ever-changing landscape of mental health. Rivera uses her sharp wit and commitment to team spirit and professional development to help the agency thrive. She is dedicated to making positive impacts on the lives of children, young people and families. She is a recognized expert in children and family mental health, depression, anxiety, suicide prevention, trauma and self-injurious behaviors.
Rivera was previously honored by LIBN among the 2024 Most Dynamic Women Leaders. She serves as a board member for the St. Anne Institute and on UnitedHealthcare’s behavioral health quality management advisory subcommittee.
As the Director of Clinical Services at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, I’ve been following the rise of AI in mental health with interest and caution. Apps like Wysa and Youper are getting more popular, especially with teens. They offer things like mood tracking and mindfulness tips, and since they’re free and available anytime, they can feel easier to use than talking to a real person.
But the question on everyone’s mind is:
Can AI take the place of therapy?
At the Guidance Center, we offer a wide range of services to support kids and families. We have a variety of therapy groups for children, teens, and caregivers that promote socialization; a Wilderness Respite Program that brings youth together to disconnect from technology and reconnect with nature; and home-based services that foster healing directly in the home. All these services are grounded in real, personal connection that no app or AI can truly replace.
When AI therapy came up during a clinical team meeting, some staff were concerned about its role in mental health, while other clinicians saw limited value and simply used it for administrative tasks. The team’s biggest concern is that AI can’t challenge someone’s thinking or help them work through patterns in a meaningful way. That’s a critical part of therapy; it’s not just about being heard, but being understood and challenged.
While some teens do use AI tools to journal or vent privately, there’s no real conversation or empathy. One-sided communication might offer a moment of relief, but it doesn’t create real change.
I am reminded of a student who texted a counselor during class, saying she was thinking of hurting herself. Because a trained professional was there, we were able to respond immediately and get her the help she needed. That kind of support can’t come from AI.
Some people wonder if AI could help communities that don’t have easy access to care. In theory, this is possible. But in practice, many of the families we work with don’t even have access to reliable devices or Wi-Fi, and many young people struggle to tell the difference between helpful tools and harmful content online. That’s why we’ve placed licensed clinicians directly in schools like Westbury High School, removing barriers to care and increasing the accessibility of our services.
This is not a case against technology. Some of our clinicians use simple digital games with kids to help them express emotions, and that can open the door to meaningful conversations. There may be a role for tech in storytelling or trauma work down the line, but it should be used as a support, not a replacement.
So, can AI be a therapist? No, not really. It might help fill an immediate need or administrative task, but it can’t replace the empathy and human insight that real therapy offers.
The more important question is how we can use AI responsibly, without losing what matters most in mental health care: relationships, trust, and real conversations.
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, the preeminent not-for-profit children’s mental health agency on Long Island, hosted the Jonathan Krevat Memorial Golf Classic on June 2, 2025, at the outstanding Sands Point Golf Club. The event raised over $175,000 to support the Guidance Center’s work to bring hope and healing to children and families dealing with mental health challenges.
“With suicide serving as the second leading cause of death among children ages 10-14, the mission of the Guidance Center is more important than ever before,” said Troy Slade, Board Member and Co-Chair of the event. “Children and teens are facing unprecedented challenges that contribute to rising rates of depression, substance use, and suicidal ideation. We are all so grateful to our many friends, colleagues, and family members who came out to support this vital organization that makes a real difference for the children in our community.”
This year’s guest speaker was 13-year-old Fernanda Rivera, who began therapy at the Guidance Center in the 2nd grade when her mother noticed that she had lost interest in school, hobbies, and friends. She was eventually diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and through therapy, gained the tools to express herself and manage overwhelming emotions. “The Guidance Center paved the way for me to heal and discover who I am,” said Fernanda. “I’m so grateful to all the people who have helped me along the way, from my clinical team to my family, who never gave up on me and made sure I never gave up on myself.”
Fernanda was joined by her mother, Amanda Pena, who shared her perspective as a parent. “When my daughter was 8, I knew something wasn’t right,” she reflected. “She used to love going to school and being active, but that had all changed. She was no longer motivated, and she was so anxious about things she used to look forward to. The Guidance Center has been a miracle for my family. Us parents always want to do what is best for our kids, but we can’t do it alone. I am so grateful for the work of this organization, who gave my daughter the ability to take control of her own life.”
The co-chairs for this year’s Krevat Cup were Board Members Michael Mondiello, Dan Oliver, Michael Schnepper and Troy Slade.
The Guidance Center is grateful to the Krevat Cup’s sponsors: Aon, Susan & Jeff Krevat, NFP, Canon Solutions America, SkyBridge Capital, and the Bahnik Foundation. Special thanks to our corporate foursomes: City National Rochdale, the Levine Group, Newmark, PSEG Long Island, Rivkin Radler, and RT Specialty.
Published in Long Island Business News, Schneps Media, Long Island Press
On Thursday, April 24, 2025, a sold out crowd of close to 250 guests came together for North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s annual Spring Luncheon. This year’s event, which supports the Guidance Center’s mission to restore and strengthen the emotional well-being of children and their families, garnered over $100,000!
Due to the overwhelming support at last year’s luncheon, the Guidance Center expanded its line of signature jewelry featuring the calendula flower, known for its healing properties against anxiety and depression at the event. This symbol appeared on an elegant assortment of necklaces, bracelets, and earrings, representing the Guidance Center’s mission of providing hope and healing.
The keynote speaker was Katie Fogarty, career coach and podcaster who hosts the top-ranked podcast A Certain Age, a show that spotlights women reinventing midlife.
“When we hit a certain age, we start to experience life’s curveballs, speedbumps, setbacks, and challenges,” said Katie. “Women are the frontline mental health workers for their families. We need to take care of our mental health, to put our oxygen masks on first, so we in turn can help our families, our children, our aging parents, and our communities. We can reach out to friends, we can work with trained therapists, and we can rely on organizations like North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center.”
“Katie inspired us all with her journey toward thriving mentally, physically, and socially at every stage of life,” remarked Board President Alexis Siegel. “I am so proud to represent an agency and an event that opens the doors for this conversation to take place.”
The luncheon wouldn’t have been such a triumph without the hard work of the co-chairs, Jan Ashley, Ruth Fortunoff Cooper, and Alexis Siegel. “This event is so vital to our organization because it truly starts a conversation about the mental health challenges that our children face today,” said Kathy Rivera, Executive Director/CEO of the Guidance Center. “While society has come a long way in normalizing discussions around mental health, we know there’s still work to be done. The stigma hasn’t disappeared, and many families still struggle in silence.”
The Guidance Center is also grateful for the support of its sponsors. They are: The Jack and Dorothy Kupferberg Foundation, Amy Cantor, Joan Grant, Marilyn Albanese, Americana Manhasset, Ruth Fortunoff Cooper, Linda Cronin, Klipper Family Foundation, Nancy Lane, Alexis Siegel, Jan Ashley, Tracy Brown, Adina Eigen, Flagstar Bank, United Healthcare, Sheryl Albanese, Stephanie Ginsberg, Andrea Leeds, National Grid, Michele Silverman, South Oaks Hospital and Zucker Hillside Hospital – Northwell Health, and Debbie Klein.
By Denise Ingenito, Director of Clinical Services at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
Originally Published in Schneps Media on May 8, 2025
A tragic reality that has become all too common has left parents and children grappling with fear on a daily basis. Data tracked by Everytown for Gun Safety shows that, in the first five months of 2025 alone, there have been 47 incidents of gunfire on school grounds, resulting in 13 deaths, 41 injuries, and a widespread environment of anxiety and uncertainty for our most vulnerable population.
According to Pew Research Center, 57% of teens expressed worry about the possibility of a shooting happening at their school, while nearly 70% of parents worry for their children’s safety while receiving their education.
This deeply rooted concern challenges the sense of security that is so important for children’s mental and emotional development, impacting their ability to thrive both academically and socially. It’s more important than ever for parents to instill a sense of safety and security in their children, strengthening the emotional well-being that allows children to learn, grow, and connect.
Open Communication
When a child brings up safety concerns, listen and turn the conversation into a teachable moment. Starting an open dialogue by asking questions about their experiences in school helps children articulate their emotions and empowers them to think through plans that can better their safety.
Though you don’t want to shelter children from current events, overexposing them to distressing media can heighten their worry and make them feel that the world is a dangerous place. Discussing news events as a family in a calm manner will help to manage their uncertainty and allow you to ensure they have accurate information about the situation at hand.
When symptoms of distress and anxiety emerge, create a safe and supportive space for your child. By validating their feelings, you are letting them know that it’s okay to feel worried or anxious, which helps to reduce any shame or guilt they might feel about being afraid.
Preparing Children Without Creating Fear
Balancing the need to prepare children for emergencies without creating more fear can be a challenge. Lockdown drills are scary for kids of all ages and should be presented as part of a broader safety plan. Walking children through what will happen step-by-step and explaining that these measures are there to keep them safe will alleviate some of the nervousness this type of exercise can cause.
Encouraging situational awareness and teaching children what they can do to keep themselves safe in different scenarios will help them feel in control. Emphasize that these measures are in place to prevent something bad from happening, rather than because a threat is inevitable.
Remind your children to look for the good in the world; there are always people willing to help in times of struggle.
The Relationships Between Parents, Teachers, and Students
Effective communication is the cornerstone of a safe school environment. Since children are perceptive and often pick up on the anxieties of the adults around them, parents and teachers should be mindful of how they talk about safety concerns, displaying a calm, confident demeanor and providing reassurance when needed. When adults work together, they ensure that children receive a consistent message about their safety.
While the stories seen on the evening news often feel entirely out of our control, we do have a say in how we respond. Parents play a major role in helping their children develop resilience and confidence, forming the tools they need to navigate a world full of uncertainty.
For more information about the Guidance Center’s lifesaving programs, visit www.northshorechildguidance.org or call (516) 626-1971.
In this monthly column, therapists from North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center answer your questions on issues related to parenting, mental health, and children’s well-being. To submit a question, email communications@northshorechildguidance.org.
Question: Our 16-year-old daughter has been severely depressed since breaking up with her boyfriend, who has been harassing and cyberbullying her. He is posting cruel messages about her online, sharing private details of their relationship to embarrass her, and encouraging others to exclude her at school. We were shocked to learn that he had treated her poorly even before the breakup, though she hasn’t been open about what transpired. Now, she’s saying she just wants to disappear, and we’re terrified she might hurt herself. How can we support her emotionally, protect her from further harm, and help her heal from this toxic situation?
– Helpless Parent
Dear Helpless Parent: Finding out that your child has been a victim of teen dating violence is heartbreaking and difficult to navigate for the entire family. When a teen is experiencing interpersonal abuse, whether psychological, sexual, or physical, it can take a severe toll on their mental health, leading to depression, isolation, and even suicidal thoughts.
It’s important to help your daughter recognize that her ex-boyfriend’s actions of spreading false rumors, name-calling, and threats are tactics of control. Abusive partners often manipulate their victims by making them feel unworthy, isolating them from loved ones, and using technology to harass and intimidate. Unfortunately, this behavior is not uncommon. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, among high school students who dated, about 1 in 12 experienced physical dating violence, and 1 in 10 experienced sexual dating violence, with females experiencing higher rates of both forms of violence than males.
By creating a safe space for open conversation, you let your daughter know that you are there to listen without judgment. Encourage her to share her feelings and thoughts by asking open-ended questions about what she is going through and what she needs, but understand that it may be difficult for her to talk about the trauma she has experienced. It’s important to reassure her that what happened is not her fault and that she is not alone.
Social media has made it more difficult to step away from harassment that might otherwise be confined to school. Enforcing healthy boundaries and digital safety with your daughter will allow her to feel safe at home again, away from the abuse of her ex-boyfriend. Help her adjust her social media privacy settings to protect herself from further harassment, and ensure that she blocks her ex-boyfriend. Reach out to school officials, who may have protocols in place to keep your daughter safe during the school day.
Recognizing the signs of trauma is vital in helping your daughter heal. If she becomes withdrawn, anxious, or irritable, these may be indicators of further emotional distress brought on by her experience. Signs of depression and suicidal thoughts are immediate cause for bringing her to a professional so that she can begin to work through her distress.
Teens recovering from dating abuse need mental health support to rebuild self-esteem and regain a sense of safety. Individual and group therapy can help your daughter recognize what a healthy relationship looks like and develop the tools she needs to move forward.
At North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, we provide urgent mental health services for children and families facing dire situations like this. Our Triage and Emergency Services team is here to help your daughter develop the strength to overcome this trauma and the tools to learn what a loving, respectful relationship is like.
