by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Aug 25, 2025 | Blog, In The Media, Long Island Press
By Denise Ingenito, LCSW, Director of Clinical Services at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
Originally Published in Schneps Media on July 25
Summer brings endless possibilities, whether it’s basking at the beach, riding roller coasters… or fighting with family. Vacations introduce stressors that might not come up at home, making it difficult to manage a packed itinerary and tired children alike.
Though many aspects of a trip are out of your control, parents do have a say in how they plan for and confront conflict that arises. A realistic outlook and openness to improvisation can help to ensure that your summer outing brings the family closer together, not further apart.
Traveling with Kids of Different Ages
Planning a vacation that accommodates children of all ages can prove to be quite a feat. Teenagers often desire freedom and time on their own, which might not always mesh with the rest of the family’s plans. Find activities that allow them to explore independently while still being safely supervised. Encourage them to take on leadership roles in group activities, but avoid putting too much responsibility on their shoulders.
For younger children, the disruption to their routines can lead to stressful moments. Be prepared for some flexibility in their schedules; if nap times or mealtimes get thrown off, don’t sweat it—just build some extra downtime into the itinerary. Keep an eye on their energy levels and emotional cues to gauge when they might need a break.
Set Expectations
Everyone has a vision of what a great vacation looks like, and these ideas can vary widely. Are you headed for a calming lakeside retreat or an action-packed adventure? By discussing and aligning on what each person hopes to get out of the trip, you can set realistic expectations and ensure that everyone is excited and prepared for the days ahead.
Encourage your children to express their interests and preferences. While not everything can be tailored to their exact wishes, giving them a voice in the planning process can help them feel more invested and willing to compromise. It’s all about finding a balance where everyone’s needs are considered, even if they’re not fully met.
Set Boundaries
Traveling brings a whirlwind of activity, and there will come a point when everyone needs a breather. Setting boundaries is key to managing feelings of overstimulation and irritation. Designate some downtime for the adults to relax and for the kids to enjoy some independent play. If teenagers have been taking on extra responsibilities, make sure they get time to themselves, too.
Create space for individual needs and moments of respite. This can mean independent play for the kids or periods where everyone can unwind individually. Respecting these boundaries helps prevent conflicts and ensures that everyone returns to the planned activities feeling refreshed.
Dealing with Disappointment
Even with the best-laid plans, no vacation is perfect. Conflicts and disappointments are inevitable, but how you handle them can make a big difference. If things don’t go as planned, take the time to acknowledge and discuss the feelings of disappointment. Reflect on what could have been better and what you can do differently next time.
Be sure to focus on the positives as well! What went smoothly? What was everyone’s favorite part? What made you laugh? Sharing these reflections with your family can help to shift the focus from disappointments to memorable moments. Opening the door to these conversations fosters a positive outlook and helps everyone appreciate the trip more fully.
After the Vacation
Once the vacation is over, take some time to review and savor the highlights. Break out the photo album and discuss your favorite moments from the trip. These discussions can create lasting memories that bring you closer together, even when things don’t go exactly as planned.
To learn about our lifesaving programs, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org. In case of an emergency after hours, contact our partners at Long Island Crisis Center, (516) 679-1111.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Aug 25, 2025 | Ask The Guidance Center Experts, Blog, In The Media, Long Island Press
Originally Published in Schneps Media on July 18, 2025
In this monthly column, therapists from North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center answer your questions on issues related to parenting, mental health, and children’s well-being. To submit a question, email communications@northshorechildguidance.org.
Question: My teenage daughter has become increasingly distraught over the growing ICE raids on Long Island. At first, we tried to reassure her by explaining that those without a criminal record would not be targeted. But as recent reports have shown otherwise, she’s grown more anxious and fearful, especially for our family members who have lived in the U.S. for decades. She’s been struggling with sleepless nights and a level of nervousness we’ve never seen before. She’s even been apprehensive about going to school. How can we help her manage this very real fear and regain a sense of safety and stability?
Answer: Your daughter’s fear is both personal and entirely rational. The threat of family separation has a profound psychological impact on young people, especially those with loved ones who may be undocumented.
According to the American Immigration Council, more than 4 million children in the U.S. live with at least one undocumented parent. The fear your daughter is experiencing is unfortunately not uncommon. One of the most helpful things you can do is talk openly with her about what your family is doing to stay safe and prepared. Reassure her that there are steps in place, and remind her that she is not alone. Discuss news events as a family to help to manage her uncertainty and allow you to ensure she has accurate information about the situation at hand. When symptoms of distress and anxiety emerge, encourage her to express her emotions freely, and consider seeking support from a counselor familiar with trauma and immigration-related anxiety.
At North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, we’ve seen how news of intensified immigration enforcement has created waves of anxiety across our community. In response, we took swift and compassionate action to support the vulnerable children and families we serve.
Working in consultation with legal experts, we’ve implemented trauma-informed protocols across all our sites. While we do not provide legal advice, our staff has been trained to respond in ways that prioritize safety, ethics, and emotional support. Most importantly, our clinicians work closely with families to create emergency action plans that can provide a sense of control and stability during uncertain times. These plans often include identifying trusted adults who can care for children, securing written permissions for school pickups, and ensuring there’s a network of supports in place if a caregiver is detained or deported.
Knowing there’s a plan and a team of caring adults looking out for her and your family can go a long way toward easing her fears. Though the world may feel unpredictable, a stable support system will allow her to begin rebuilding a sense of security in the face of uncertainty.
To learn about our lifesaving programs, call the Guidance Center at (516) 626-1971 or visit www.northshorechildguidance.org. In case of an emergency after hours, contact our partners at Long Island Crisis Center, (516) 679-1111.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Aug 25, 2025 | In The Media, Long Island Press
Event raises over $175,000 to support children’s mental health
Published in the Long Island Press
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, the preeminent not-for-profit children’s mental health agency on Long Island, hosted the Jonathan Krevat Memorial Golf Classic on June 2, 2025, at the outstanding Sands Point Golf Club. The event raised over $175,000 to support the Guidance Center’s work to bring hope and healing to children and families dealing with mental health challenges.
“With suicide serving as the second leading cause of death among children ages 10-14, the mission of the Guidance Center is more important than ever before,” said Troy Slade, Board Member and Co-Chair of the event. “Children and teens are facing unprecedented challenges that contribute to rising rates of depression, substance use, and suicidal ideation. We are all so grateful to our many friends, colleagues, and family members who came out to support this vital organization that makes a real difference for the children in our community.”
This year’s guest speaker was 13-year-old Fernanda Rivera, who began therapy at the Guidance Center in the 2nd grade when her mother noticed that she had lost interest in school, hobbies, and friends. She was eventually diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and through therapy, gained the tools to express herself and manage overwhelming emotions. “The Guidance Center paved the way for me to heal and discover who I am,” said Fernanda. “I’m so grateful to all the people who have helped me along the way, from my clinical team to my family, who never gave up on me and made sure I never gave up on myself.”
Fernanda was joined by her mother, Amanda Pena, who shared her perspective as a parent. “When my daughter was 8, I knew something wasn’t right,” she reflected. “She used to love going to school and being active, but that had all changed. She was no longer motivated, and she was so anxious about things she used to look forward to. The Guidance Center has been a miracle for my family. Us parents always want to do what is best for our kids, but we can’t do it alone. I am so grateful for the work of this organization, who gave my daughter the ability to take control of her own life.”
The co-chairs for this year’s Krevat Cup were Board Members Michael Mondiello, Dan Oliver, Michael Schnepper and Troy Slade.
The Guidance Center is grateful to the Krevat Cup’s sponsors: Aon, Susan & Jeff Krevat, NFP, Canon Solutions America, SkyBridge Capital, and the Bahnik Foundation. Special thanks to our corporate foursomes: City National Rochdale, the Levine Group, Newmark, PSEG Long Island, Rivkin Radler, and RT Specialty.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jul 3, 2025 | In The Media, Long Island Press
Published in the Long Island Press
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center, the preeminent not-for-profit children’s mental health agency on Long Island, hosted the Jonathan Krevat Memorial Golf Classic on June 2, 2025, at the outstanding Sands Point Golf Club. The event raised over $175,000 to support the Guidance Center’s work to bring hope and healing to children and families dealing with mental health challenges.
“With suicide serving as the second leading cause of death among children ages 10-14, the mission of the Guidance Center is more important than ever before,” said Troy Slade, Board Member and Co-Chair of the event. “Children and teens are facing unprecedented challenges that contribute to rising rates of depression, substance use, and suicidal ideation. We are all so grateful to our many friends, colleagues, and family members who came out to support this vital organization that makes a real difference for the children in our community.”
This year’s guest speaker was 13-year-old Fernanda Rivera, who began therapy at the Guidance Center in the 2nd grade when her mother noticed that she had lost interest in school, hobbies, and friends. She was eventually diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and through therapy, gained the tools to express herself and manage overwhelming emotions. “The Guidance Center paved the way for me to heal and discover who I am,” said Fernanda. “I’m so grateful to all the people who have helped me along the way, from my clinical team to my family, who never gave up on me and made sure I never gave up on myself.”
Fernanda was joined by her mother, Amanda Pena, who shared her perspective as a parent. “When my daughter was 8, I knew something wasn’t right,” she reflected. “She used to love going to school and being active, but that had all changed. She was no longer motivated, and she was so anxious about things she used to look forward to. The Guidance Center has been a miracle for my family. Us parents always want to do what is best for our kids, but we can’t do it alone. I am so grateful for the work of this organization, who gave my daughter the ability to take control of her own life.”
The co-chairs for this year’s Krevat Cup were Board Members Michael Mondiello, Dan Oliver, Michael Schnepper and Troy Slade.
The Guidance Center is grateful to the Krevat Cup’s sponsors: Aon, Susan & Jeff Krevat, NFP, Canon Solutions America, SkyBridge Capital, and the Bahnik Foundation. Special thanks to our corporate foursomes: City National Rochdale, the Levine Group, Newmark, PSEG Long Island, Rivkin Radler, and RT Specialty.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Jun 18, 2025 | Blog, In The Media, Long Island Press
By Denise Ingenito, Director of Clinical Services at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center
Originally Published in Schneps Media on May 8, 2025
A tragic reality that has become all too common has left parents and children grappling with fear on a daily basis. Data tracked by Everytown for Gun Safety shows that, in the first five months of 2025 alone, there have been 47 incidents of gunfire on school grounds, resulting in 13 deaths, 41 injuries, and a widespread environment of anxiety and uncertainty for our most vulnerable population.
According to Pew Research Center, 57% of teens expressed worry about the possibility of a shooting happening at their school, while nearly 70% of parents worry for their children’s safety while receiving their education.
This deeply rooted concern challenges the sense of security that is so important for children’s mental and emotional development, impacting their ability to thrive both academically and socially. It’s more important than ever for parents to instill a sense of safety and security in their children, strengthening the emotional well-being that allows children to learn, grow, and connect.
Open Communication
When a child brings up safety concerns, listen and turn the conversation into a teachable moment. Starting an open dialogue by asking questions about their experiences in school helps children articulate their emotions and empowers them to think through plans that can better their safety.
Though you don’t want to shelter children from current events, overexposing them to distressing media can heighten their worry and make them feel that the world is a dangerous place. Discussing news events as a family in a calm manner will help to manage their uncertainty and allow you to ensure they have accurate information about the situation at hand.
When symptoms of distress and anxiety emerge, create a safe and supportive space for your child. By validating their feelings, you are letting them know that it’s okay to feel worried or anxious, which helps to reduce any shame or guilt they might feel about being afraid.
Preparing Children Without Creating Fear
Balancing the need to prepare children for emergencies without creating more fear can be a challenge. Lockdown drills are scary for kids of all ages and should be presented as part of a broader safety plan. Walking children through what will happen step-by-step and explaining that these measures are there to keep them safe will alleviate some of the nervousness this type of exercise can cause.
Encouraging situational awareness and teaching children what they can do to keep themselves safe in different scenarios will help them feel in control. Emphasize that these measures are in place to prevent something bad from happening, rather than because a threat is inevitable.
Remind your children to look for the good in the world; there are always people willing to help in times of struggle.
The Relationships Between Parents, Teachers, and Students
Effective communication is the cornerstone of a safe school environment. Since children are perceptive and often pick up on the anxieties of the adults around them, parents and teachers should be mindful of how they talk about safety concerns, displaying a calm, confident demeanor and providing reassurance when needed. When adults work together, they ensure that children receive a consistent message about their safety.
While the stories seen on the evening news often feel entirely out of our control, we do have a say in how we respond. Parents play a major role in helping their children develop resilience and confidence, forming the tools they need to navigate a world full of uncertainty.
For more information about the Guidance Center’s lifesaving programs, visit www.northshorechildguidance.org or call (516) 626-1971.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Feb 12, 2025 | In The Media, Long Island Press
Published on November 19, 2024, Long Island Press, Long Island Business News
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center’s Hope and Healing Gala was a night to remember, celebrating the transformative work of the Long Island’s premiere nonprofit children’s mental health organization. Held on November 13, 2024 at North Hempstead Country Club, the event brought together community leaders, supporters, and friends to raise nearly a quarter million dollars in support of vital programs and services.
“When you’ve been around for as long as we have, you know that the only way to keep going is by moving forward,” said Alexis Siegel, President of the Board of Directors. “By listening and responding to the changing needs of the community, we have kept a finger on the pulse of what is most needed by the children and families on Long Island.”
The evening honored Dr. Ramin Rak, neurosurgeon at NSPC Brain and Spine Surgery and Founder/CEO of iMind Brain Food. Dr. Rak consistently amplifies the connection between the health of the mind and body and is a valued supporter of the Guidance Center.
“The strides we are making in medicine are extraordinary, constantly pushing the boundaries of what is possible and giving patients hope where there was once none,” noted Dr. Rak. “But for all the progress we make in the operating room, it is organizations like the Guidance Center that create the environments where healing and transformation can continue beyond the operating room walls.”
Justine Hofsiss, a client of the Diane Goldberg Maternal Health & Wellness Program, shared a moving account of her journey with postpartum depression and anxiety. “I’m not exaggerating when I say that the Guidance Center saved my life,” she said, joined at the podium with the support of her husband. “They helped me see a future that I couldn’t imagine for myself in my darkest days. My children have a happy and healthy mom, and I can be there for my family just like they were there for me. I’m grateful beyond words to this incredible organization that gave me back hope and joy in my life.”
The evening’s music was provided by Peat Moss and the Fertilizers, who got guests out of their seats and onto the dancefloor. Holly Marcell, the 10th grade daughter of Board Members Andrew and Carol Marcell, captivated the audience with a touching performance of “She Used to Be Mine” from the musical Waitress, a song that emphasizes the importance of self-love.
Kathy Rivera, the Guidance Center’s Executive Director/CEO, thanked the evening’s Emcee, Stacey Sager of Channel 7 Eyewitness News, and the sponsors and underwriters of the event: Maureen & John Ferrari; Klipper Family Foundation; The Schott Foundation; WABC-TV; Marilyn & Russell Albanese; Americana Manhasset; SompoRe; Mary Margiotta & Vasu Krishnamurthy; Susan Isaacs & Elkan Abramowitz; and Lauren & Jonathan Schiff.
by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Dec 16, 2024 | In The Media, Long Island Press
Published Oct 17, 2024
On Sept. 20, North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center welcomed a team of National Grid volunteers to the Marks Family Right From the Start 0-3+ Center as part of the company’s statewide day of service, known as Project C.
For the third year in a row, National Grid volunteers dedicated their time to various projects throughout the Guidance Center by painting, cleaning and transforming rooms into beautiful, functional facilities that are now ready to serve the community.
“We are so grateful for the amazing work of the National Grid volunteers,” Sue Cohen, director of early childhood and psychological services at the Right from the Start Center, said. The Guidance Center serves its youngest clients and their families.
“The group was enthusiastic in taking on every project that we suggested, no matter how big or small, and some that they identified on their own,” she continued. “Their efforts resulted in a brand-new group therapy room, which will be put to immediate use with our fall programs, and a calming lactation room that was transformed from an old office space. This tranquil setting is now ready for postpartum clients and staff members alike.”
When materials for the sensory room, a major initiative at the Guidance Center, didn’t arrive in time for the Day of Service, National Grid generously arranged for a second team of volunteers to return the following Friday to assemble the wide range of sensory equipment.
“National Grid volunteers went above and beyond to perfect the space and set up the state-of-the-art equipment for our use,” Cohen said. “We are so grateful for all of their hard work and continued support of our mission.”
“We are proud to support the communities where we live and work,” said Brian Sapp, regional director of external affairs at National Grid.
“Giving back is important to us, and it’s extremely rewarding to see the impact we can make. Volunteering at North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center was rewarding and we are proud to have the opportunity to contribute by offering our resources and support,” he continued. “Nonprofits like the Guidance Center play a crucial role in improving the lives of young people on Long Island, and we’re honored to work alongside them.”
If your company would like to discuss opportunities to volunteer at the Guidance Center or support our mission in other ways, contact Lauren McGowan at LMcGowan@northshorechildguidance.org.
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by North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center | Dec 16, 2024 | In The Media, Long Island Press
Published Nov 4, 2024
North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center hosted a fundraiser on Oct. 16 for an evening of dinner and music benefiting the Children’s Center at Nassau County Family Court. Hosted at Stewart Manor Country Club with a record number of attendees, the event raised more than $13,000, which will go directly towards providing care and early learning to more than 1,400 children annually, ages 6 weeks – 12 years, while their parents or guardians are conducting business in family court.
Kathy Rivera, Executive Director and CEO of the Guidance Center, thanked the two full-time staff members and the valued volunteers, without whom the Children’s Center’s high level of service would not be possible.
“The Children’s Center is a vital resource, allowing children to be cared for in a safe, nurturing, early-learning environment while their parents or guardians are conducting court business,” Rivera said. “Many of these families are here during their darkest times, and we ensure that no child is exposed to what happens in the courtroom. We are so proud that the Children’s Center is able to provide this free service to anyone who walks through the doors.”
“The Children’s Center is such an important component of family court,” said Judge Ellen Greenberg, a continued supporter and judge at Nassau County Family Court. “Not every family court in the state of New York has a children’s center that remains open Monday through Friday from 9-5. It makes a difference when parents can come into court without worrying about whether their children will be okay. They know that, with our well-trained staff and volunteers, their kids will have a fantastic time.”
The evening featured special guest, New York Giants two-time Super Bowl Champion, Sean Lendeta, who came out to sign autographs for guests in support of the Children’s Center.
Rivera also thanked the co-chairs, Allison Cacace, Tanya Mir, Nassau County Women’s Bar Association President Tammy Smiley, Esq., Cherice P. Vanderhall-Wilson, Esq., and John Zenir, Esq., for their ongoing dedication to the Children’s Center.
The fundraiser was sponsored by an array of local law firms and other businesses, including Arthur Brasco, Casino One Limousine, Rene Joseph, Nassau County Women’s Bar Association, Hon. Frank N. Schellace, SCL Law Group, Derell Wilson & Cherice Vanderhall Wilson, Esqs., Laurie Yehuda, and John Zenir.
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